How you respond to and discipline your children greatly affects how they develop, both cognitively and socially. A child’s development process is influenced by a mixture of all the stimuli he comes into contact with, both with individuals and with his environment. Since parents are normally a fixed presence in a child’s life, they tend to have the most significant impact on whether his development is positive or negative.
Parents greatly affect their children’s behavior. Children are like sponges–they model everything a parent does and incorporate what they see into their own lives. It is important that parents set the right examples for their children. Negative examples can be detrimental to a child’s development and can lead to bad behavior.
The way a parent disciplines greatly affects their children’s behavior, When a parent elects to use physical punishment, such as spanking, it does not teach the child how to change his behavior. Children can also react aggressively to physical punishment. When parents chooses alternate forms of punishment, such as time-outs, they are helping modify the child’s bad behavior in a calm manner.
Bad parenting in this regard comes in the form of failing to buffer the adverse affects of crisis that a child experiences, not teaching a child coping skills and not being responsive during a time of need. When a child has poor resilience, this can stem from a parent’s inflexibility, inability to handle change well or failure to cope with negative emotions in a healthy manner.
As children grow, they progress from total dependence during their first years of life to a higher degree of independence in their teenage years, when they start feeling the need to create their own identity. Parents may feel overly protective of their kids and want to control every aspect of their lives, fearing dangers such as drugs, alcohol, violence in schools, teenage pregnancies and pedophiles. Parents need to know the difference between being involved in their children’s lives and being overprotective
RESILIENCE:
Resilience refers to a person’s ability to cope with social, emotional, behavioral, physical and educational hardships. Parents with poor resilience are more likely to have children who also lack resilience, according to Joseph Rowntree Foundation. Bad parenting in this regard comes in the form of failing to buffer the adverse affects of crisis that a child experiences, not teaching a child coping skills and not being responsive during a time of need. When a child has poor resilience, this can stem from a parent’s inflexibility, inability to handle change well or failure to cope with negative emotions in a healthy manner.
What Are the Advantages & Disadvantages of Parent Involvement in the life of their Children
Advantage: Positive Relationships
Parental involvement at school can help build positive interactions between parents and kids, as well as parents and teachers. Parents will have a better idea of what their child’s day is like, which can improve family communication. Younger children are often excited to see their parents in a volunteer role, and it may help to give them a positive outlook on school. It can also build and improve the relationships between parents and teachers. The teacher can get a better understanding of individual family dynamics, cultural background and challenges a family faces as well as their strengths. Parents may develop a better understanding of the teacher’s expectations and the challenging dynamics that teacher may face in class. Getting to know each other can clear up such frustrations as the way a teacher handles discipline or why a parent is unhappy with the amount of homework being assigned to her child.
Disadvantage: Helicopter Parenting
Some parents take their involvement too far. They are at school so much that they become a source of distraction for their child, or their child’s classmates and teachers. It’s important to remember that school is a place of learning as well as a workplace. Teachers do not want to encounter parents having a loud conversation by the faculty lounge about another teacher they don’t like or to be placed in the awkward position of reprimanding a student who is not following instructions because he wants to talk to his mom. Being overly involved can lead to stepping in too frequently to deal with issues the child should handle. Also, not all teachers are comfortable with a parent volunteer in class. Some students are too distracted by the presence of their parents, which can cause a lack of focus or behavior problems. A parent can help the school without necessarily being in the room.
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