During courtship or relationship, every man and woman reveals their true character, they consciously or unconsciously show you what your married life will be through their behaviour. Unfortunately some of us fail to notice this exposure because of our unbridled emotions, even when we notice, we ignore the warning signs hoping that we can manage or it will get better with time, hoping the person will change for good after marriage.
You can’t marry a hot tempered lady, unless you want to die an untimely death. Some of us heard the judgement passed on the wife who stabbed her husband to death in 2017. She was sentenced to death by hanging.
A lot of campaign has gone in favour of women against domestic violence which is very good! Over the years, women have been seen as weakling who can’t hurt a soul, few women are like that! I wish men can bury their ego and also come out against domestic violence! Countless men have been brutally murdered, maimed, destroyed and reduced to nothing by angry, hot tempered, short tempered women! Even the holy book is against anger. It was clearly stated that anger reside in the blossom of a fool.
8 REASONS PEOPLE CLOCK 40+ AND STILL REMAIN SINGLE
It’s good to marry early, the Bible is full of scriptures referring to “the wife of thy youth”, “the children of thy youth”.
Sometimes it may not be one’s fault that they end up marrying later than they envisaged, life can act unpredictably at times, but not in all cases, sometimes we are the ones who by our own actions prolong our single hood.
So I’ve complied some reasons why this is so..
1) BEING TOO PICKY
Some bachelor’s have ladies around them who would gladly say yes to their proposal, but see how they pass over each one.
Jane? she talks too much,
What of Ruth? she’s too quiet
What of Oziegbe? she’s too local
What of Esther, she’s too black,
And you are now 39, we hail you Sir,
Grand Bachelor of the Order of the Niger (GBON)
Some ladies are too picky, all the Men God has sent their way, they have had issues with each one, this one is not this, that one is too that.
What do they now want?
He must be Tall, Dark and Handsome, romantic, have six packs, drive a Mercedes Benz, be able to spend N500k in one sitting,
Naira loaded and tongue speaking godly yahoo boy.
Where will you see that combination in one Man?
Keep searching for the Perfect Spouse.
2) BAD CHARACTER.
Some ladies are proud, rude, harsh, and insolent.
Some are snobbish, they will look down on you if you don’t have a car, forgetting that tomorrow is pregnant.
Others have bad mouth, before you say one they’ve said fifty, if they decide to wash you down, you will understand that it was Eve that ate fruit and remain for Adam and not vice versa
The Guys who would have proposed have all ran away out of fear and for their own safety.
Any Relationship they manage to enter doesn’t last more than one year before the guy runs for his life.
Some brothers nko,
pride too is doing them, no lady is good enough for them, many of them are so full of themselves, selfish, self centered and stingy.
Any girl they date, they will chase her away with their lack of security and African Man attitude. Submission fanatics.
Dear Singles, Work on your Character.
3) PLAYING GAMES
Some ladies, when they are 20,23,25, they will be doing “I’m still very young”, they will be jumping from Man to Man, having multiple lovers, running after every guy with a car key,
pursuing sugar Daddies that will never marry them, instead of settling down with one and starting a family, because the suitors are queueing up they feel it will be so forever,
Before they know it, they have clock 30. Every man knows they want marriage now and will start using “I will marry you” to knack their kpekus and waste more of her time till he finally dumps her.
Men start looking past them, the throng of suitors reduce, and by that time they will now become emergency Prayer Warriors, running from Winners to Redeemed looking for miracle Husband, attending crusades with amazing themes
“I must marry this year” “who took my husband?”
Same things for the guys.
Young and forming Play boys, Busy chasing small small girls, strafing and dumping every girl under skirt and trousers, by the time you know it you have given yourself a bad Rep, no Relationship you enter lasts, they start finding it hard to keep a stable Relationship long enough to lead to Marriage because of their promiscuity.
4) KARMA
What you sow you will reap, you can’t escape it.
Some ladies have broken homes and Marriages, while Some guys have broken several hearts, used girls and have countless abortions to their name.
Curses are flying over and around them from heart broken girls and boys from their past.
5) VILLAGE PEOPLE
Except you don’t believe in the supernatural, even if you believe it or not, things are happening.
It’s the reason I feel for People who are not Prayerful, there are people, beautiful, well behaved, financially okay, but nobody wants to marry them, any relationship they enter scatters for strange reasons.
Some persons feel that there’s no need to pray when it comes to Marriage, after all Jeffrey that was a chronic womanizer back then in school got married early and has 3 kids already, forgetting that we all come from different families, have different graces and face different battles.
(6) CULTURE
The younger one can not marry before the elder one and elder one is kuku having problems getting a partner.
The Man must be ready to buy 500 tuber of yams, 3 sewing machines, 30 bags of rice, one suzuki motorcycle for the Bride’s mother,…………………….. List goes on
It was that list that drove Segun, Paul, & John away, you are now 30 and now that same list is still being presented to Abraham.
You must only marry from our village.
You must only marry from our tribe.
You must…….
You must not……..
Parents and Traditions have actually had a way of keeping many eligible Spinsters at home ageing away.
(7) DATING DEFECTIVE PEOPLE
Defective People are People who date for fun, they are not after Marriage, they come for s€x and to kill time, nothing else. And you who thinks s3x is an audition for dating and do not want to lose them, you start using your body to sustain the relationship.
Defective People are time wasters, they can date you for Ten years and then one day wake up and break up with you because you pressed toothpaste from the middle.
By the time you date one guy or girl like that for three years, the Relationship breaks down, you enter another relationship, another two years goes down the drain.
Then you enter another one, let’s say one year,, please, how old are you self?
Are you immortal?
You are olding, but you don’t know.
Better relax and prayerfully look for ONE serious minded person to date who is tired of getting it wrong and wants to get it right.
it’s not by QUANTITY but by QUALITY. Dating is not a social experiment. Your heart is not a shopping mall. Guard it with all diligence.
(8) PLAYING HARD TO GET
Some ladies, fall sheepishly and so easy for those sugarcoated guys who will only use them and waste them.
Fine son of God will be giving them signal they will be doing Shakara, very soon fine son of God will move on to a sister that is ready and cooperative, they will say “ordinary hard to get that i just did oh, he couldn’t even wait, he’s not serious” not knowing they are the ones that is not serious.
Sisters, calm down,
“what shall it profit thee to do all the shakara in the whole World and lose thy suitors?”
HARD to get has made some sisters IMPOSSIBLE to Find.
Dear Bachelor and Spinster,
Yes, Be careful so in an attempt to marry early you do not marry Wrongly, However, be not deceived,
“You can marry Early and Marry Well.”
Peak News 