Early Morning Pill: Relationship is About Giving & Taking
A relationship is Not All About What You Want; What Can You Give?
I have studied the collapse of many romantic relationships, marriage inclusive, and found that a lot of people had no business being in it in the first place. They are narcissists (who always think about what they can get and are never willing to give).
A lot of people have not matured mentally, and spiritually enough to understand that relationships are not just about them. And while this does not take spiritual or mental maturity to know, a lot of people lack the common sense to know it; they are narcissists.
Thinking that a relationship must be all about them is commoner to women than men. While men are often selfish too, they understand that they have to give before getting what they want, most women do not understand this, or they choose to ignore it.
They feel that a relationship must be about them; they think a man must do everything they want just because they have two holes under them that men must do anything to get into. The thought of it disgusts me.
They make sex a big deal in a romantic relationship because they are self-centered – they are not holy, they just do not want to give anything yet wish to get from men.
I remember asking a lady out some time ago, and even though she was yet to say yes to me, I was already thinking about how I could contribute to the success of her career by linking her up.
That is how a relationship should be. You must have what will benefit the other person and be willing to give. I spent a lot of time wondering if any woman thinks that way.
It seems that they only think about themselves and what they can get from men. That is why many of them are single and may never be married. They will continue to get used and dumped until men no longer find them attractive.
When I list what I want in a woman, if I ever do that, I also make sure I am working on myself to be the man she will be proud of – I always want to make a difference in the life of any woman I met even if it is not just about money. Do women think like that too?
Look, if you want to be in a relationship, you must be selfless; think about what your partner can gain from you and develop yourself to be able to provide it.
As much as I wish to give my partner the best and help her become better than I met her, I also want the same from her. If she is not doing the same, I will leave her for another woman who cares as much as I do about her.
A relationship is about giving & taking; if you are not willing to give, then you are not qualified to take from it. If you have always been receiving, then ask yourself. What have I been giving?
If you are not ready to give anything, or willing to take care of your prospective partner’s financial, mental, physical, and emotional needs, then just stay single.
If you wish to be in a relationship, if you wish to be in a romantic relationship, you must be willing to take care of at least two of the above-mentioned needs of your partner.
Be ready to support each other needs, such as physical, mental, and financial. If you cannot support your partner with any of those, yet make sex a big deal, then you are useless.
Rhemez
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