These signs show the girl is a keeper and you should propose to her at the right time.
She’s happy around you If a woman likes you, she always tries to be with you. She loves your companionship and she doesn’t stop smiling because she is comfortable around you. She loves your aura, energy and great personality.
Downplays other guys She wants you to know that there are other guys interested in her. But she doesn’t want you to think she finds them interesting. So, she may not even bring up other guys, and if she does, she does it to see your reaction.
You’ve met her friends If she really likes you and wants to move a step further in the relationship, she will introduce you to her friends. Her friends will analyze you from head to toe and delve into your occupation and family background. Although the comments don’t really matter in your relationship, it is a sign of relief for you and your girlfriend.
She shares her secrets with you Trusting someone is a risk and when someone opens up to you then you should know she really loves you. She wants an emotional bond with you and you should reciprocate her love and trust.
She tries to make you jealous Jealousy is the easy way to get someone’s attention. If she mentions other guys or flirts with other guys in front of you, she just to see what your reaction is. She wants you to fight for her love.
She spends time and money on her appearance Makeup products and designer clothes are really expensive. If she persistently looks extremely good and smells romantic any time you invite her out, this tells she wants more than mere friendship.
She just says it If you find a woman who just tells you how she feels without you having to dissect her every single move, keep her. Take her in your arms and never let go. You found a keeper, a rare gem.
She makes future plans When a girl starts suggesting things for the two of you to do in a couple of weeks, or even a couple of months, it seems pretty obvious she’s got you in her long term plan.
She cares about you and your family She likes spending time with you and tries to check up on you at work. She helps you out when she can and appreciate, if not participate, in your hobbies.
So if you find your girl inquiring about work problems, doing your dishes and watching you beat your top score on (insert video game of your choice here), you’ve found yourself a keeper.
Have you heard about the ancient town, Ijebu-Ife in the Ijebu territory of Ogun state wherein there’s a renowned community known as Igbomoku?
Igbomoku, a village in the ancient town of Ijebu-Ife harbours a mystery that no human alive is yet to decipher. It is located in Ogun state, South-Western region of Africa’s most populous nation and the fifth most populous country in the world, Nigeria.
The only known place in the whole world where no police officer, military officer, or any other uniformed personnel dares to enter while on their uniform is Igbomoku community in Ijebu-Ife.
For doubting Thomases;
The story is told of a certain police officer who hailed from the mysterious community but worked far away from his hometown – and was returning home to visit his parents and relatives after many years of leaving Igbomoku due to his joining the police force.
The young police officer, on getting into the Ijebu-Ife township was spotted by some indigenous people of the community who knowing that he was heading to Igbomoku to see his family and was dorned in the police uniform, sternly warned him not to go into his community with his uniform on. Some even offered him a space in their homes for him to change from his uniform into a mufti citing the danger he was likely to incure if he enters Igbomoku with the police uniform on, but the young officer declined their offers and turned deaf hears to their warnings. Of course, the young police officer who hailed from Igbomoku was not oblivious of the agelong mystery of the town wherein he was born and bred, but alas, he was blinded by his ego due to his orthodox education and socialization.
On getting into Igbomoku community, midway to the home where he grew up – the young police officer discovered that his uniform was getting stuck on his body – unable to comprehend what was wrong, he tried pulling the parts of his unform that was stuck to his body – but as he pulled different parts of his uniform – the parts of his flesh stuck to the uniform was pulled along with his clothes, citing that he was in great danger, he ran towards home.
His family, seeing their son running home in a police uniform knew for sure that there was fire on the mountain.
Discovering that his whole uniform had been stuck to his body, they took him to various African traditional healers within and without Ijebu-Ife hoping to find a remedy for his predicament all to no avail.
Unfortunately, the young man died with his police uniform on few days later as no one, including the traditional healers in Igbomoku and the whole of Ijebu-Ife was able to find a remedy to his predicament, hence he was buried in his uniform.
Myself, being from Ijebu-Ife used to doubt the veracity of this story and the truthfulness of the acclaimed mystery; even as i grew older as a critical thinker my doubt concerning this mysterious community grew even more stronger.
My curiosity about the community waxed so strong that at some point I was willing to join the police force Ir the military after gradeated from the University, travel down in my uniform to my hometown in Ijebu-Ife, and visit Igbomoku community while documenting my sojourn. Unfortunately, i changed my mind – the police or the military was no longer appealing to me by the time I graduated from the University, and I was not ready to use myself as a scapegoat or a catspaw all in my bid to prove a point negating an agelong preserved cultured and a conserved mystery.
However, on October 5, 2009, crisis broke out in Ijebu-Ife wherein the Ogun state Police Area Commander and a few others were killed. The crisis emanated from the killing of a hearing-impared fashion designer who was allegedly killed by vigilantes who were watching over a part of Ijebu-Ife town known as Oke-Ife at night. I would have loved to write more about the aftermath of the occurrence on that night, but that’s not the story.
So, in 2009, while the crisis was ongoing and the government deployed battalions of police officers all fully armed, with armour tanks and RPGs into Ijebu-Ife to douse the crisis and arrest the fighters – something notewothy happened.
As the police officers ravaged the nooks and crannies of Ijebu-Ife, burning houses, killing able bodied men, and raping women, while the whole town was in dissaray and majority of Ijebu-Ife residents had fled to neighbouring towns, the police officers never dared step their foot on Igbomoku community.
From my research and inquiry concerning the October 5, 2009 crisis which is now known as the “Ijebu-Ife Crisis” – I was informed that the officers of the Nigeria police force who were deployed to Ijebu-Ife during the crisis were sternly warned by the king, and even police officers who hailed from Ijebu-Ife not to step their foot in Igbomoku except they’re willing to die mysteriously.
Marriage has three stages. The first stage is called honey moon and lasts about two years. This stage is very sweet, nice and romantic. This is where you find names like honey, sweet heart, baby and so on.
In this stage, everything is perfect. This is a stage where a man returns home and dumps his socks and shoes anywhere but in the morning, he will wake up and find them placed where they’re supposed to be. This is where madam doesn’t go to bed until you return home. She sits in the living room and receives all the mosquito bites waiting for you till you return, take a shower and enjoy supper. Even if you return at midnight, you find her waiting for you. Wait and see what happens in the second stage.
This first stage is beautiful with alot of tolerance. This is a stage where at night while in bed, you release a very toxic gas and your spouse instead apologizes. Remember, you have gassed but again he tells you, “Sorry darling, it’s okaaaaaay.” This is unbelievable. Madam has gassed but to you, it’s okay. Oh my God, this is sweet. Everything is just merry making during this stage. In conclusion, Enjoy this stage for as much as we can.
The second stage lasts for ten years! This is where honey moon is over. This stage is red hot. During this stage, perhaps financial challenges have come in. You have given birth and the children are also disturbing you. Sometimes you are yet to give birth but really want to and the pressure on you is mounting from all corners. Landlords have become Landlords. There is loss of employment. Things are just tight.
Life is hard in this second stage. The man who used to return home early now returns very late. Sometimes he doesn’t even return home. There are suspicions of infidelity and cheating. You don’t trust each other. You feel your spouse is cheating, and infact he or she is cheating. When you return home and leave your shoes outside, in the morning, you find them where you left them. Things are hot here.
This is a stage where at night, you release a toxic gas and your partner asks what you ate during supper time yet you ate the same meals. He can even leave the bed and spend the night in the sitting room simply because you gassed. Imagine only gassing.
The second stage is hot. There are fights; spiritual, physical and in all aspects. This is the stage where you reach the point of considering separating. Each spouse shows his or her true colours in this stage. A night dancer switches on the reggae, mixes the music and punches the baseline. Your relatives taste the greedy side of your wife.
Those who persevere and overcome this stage end up keeping their marriage till death does them part. However, very many hang up the towel in this stage. They quit. In conclusion, Those who are in this stage should fight a little longer, not to hang up the towel. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just a little longer and you are done with this heat.
Finally, there’s the last stage. This comes after the ten red hot years. This last stage is lukewarm. It’s neither cold or hot. You gas at large and no one applauds you or complains. You have seen enough of each other. You have known each other’s true colours.
In this stage, whatever your partner does no longer surprises you. If she quarrels, you just say that is the nature of this woman. If he is still late out in the night, you don’t even bother to call since you know he will return. If she doesn’t serve you food and you feel hungry, you just go and serve food otherwise, hunger hits you for nothing.
This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is alot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don’t send her to bring for you drinking water but only wait when she’s moving to the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn’t say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity. congratulations to those who are in this stage for, they have come from far. Amen and amen
Have a wonderful reflection on this post. This can be related to new couple to-be, less than ten years marriage & finally btw 20 – 80 years of marriage
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“1. Dear married couples, there is no such legal personality known as “Mr and Mrs Okoro”. You can only have “Mr Kenneth Okoro” or “Mrs Patricia Okoro”. You might just be creating a legal problem for yourselves when you use “Mr and Mrs Okoro” to buy those goods or properties.
Dear married couples (especially those who are married under the Act), all things being equal, it is adviced that you change your next of kin to your spouse after wedding from your sibling or anybody else you used before wedding. Making your spouse your next of kin makes it easier for them to process any accrued benefits especially if either of you die intestate (without leaving a will).
Dear intending couples, there are only two types of marriages recognised in Nigeria; 1. Marriage under the Act (Matrimonial Causes Act and Marriage Act), 2. Marriage not under the Act (Marriage under Islamic Law and Marriage Under Customary Law).
The first is monogamous in nature while the latter is restricted polygamous and unrestricted polygamous in nature. For intending couples of the christian faith, there is no such thing as “church wedding”; at least under the law.
If your church is a “licensed place of worship”, what they conduct there is a “Marriage under the Act”. If your church is not a licensed place of worship and you only conducted customary marriage without going to the marriage registry, what they would have done in your church may just be a celebration and the blessing of your customary marriage.
If your church is a licensed place of worship, wedding in church and also going to the marriage registry are one and the same thing (Marriage Under the Act). Meaning a waste of resources and duplicity of purpose.
4. Dear Boyfriend and Girlfriend, promising your partner that you would marry them when you know you have no intention of doing so may give rise to a civil action of breach of promise to marry resulting in damages (compensation) and the restitution of all monies spent and gifts given. It may also give rise to a criminal action of obtaining by false pretence.
As an addendum or footnote to 1 above –
If you are really interested in buying a property as a couple then your names should appear in the agreement as Mr. Sunday Essien and Mrs. Maria Sunday Essien instead of Mr and Mrs Sunday Essien.”
You can also talk to lawyer whose core practice area is family law to advise you on these things and more.
There are many myths circulated by various ethnic nationalities about the Yoruba people of the Southwest, and a personal experience with a non-Yoruba provoked me to address some of these myths using historical facts. Please bear with me, this is a long read.
Myth one: Yorubas are betrayers
A lot of this angst, which has refused to fade away decades after the dramatis personae exited this world, is centred around a supposed betrayal of Emeka Ojukwu and the Igbos by the late Chief Obafemi Awolowo.
And sadly, this has now become an emotive issue, where fiction has been fed to many young people as fact.
The truth is that Chief Awolowo went on a peace meeting to Enugu, to try to persuade Igbo leaders to adopt a peaceful way out of the crisis that had unfolded in Nigeria after the January 15, 1966 coup and the July 29, 1966 counter coup.
Awolowo met with the leaders of the Eastern Region for two days between May 6-7, 1967. THERE IS A TRANSCRIPT OF THAT MEETING, WHICH WAS PUBLISHED WHEN BOTH AWOLOWO AND OJUKWU WERE ALIVE.
Please note that this transcript was taken from a tape recorded by then Colonel Ojukwu’s own recorder.
I encourage those who are still bitterly accusing Chief Awolowo, and by extension all Yorubas, of betrayal, to please read that transcript.
At the time Emeka Ojukwu wanted Chief Awolowo to follow his lead by announcing the secession of the Western Region after his own declaration of secession of the Southeast, there were tens of thousands of armed Northern troops all over the West. It does not take a genius to guess what would have happened if Awolowo had gone that route.
Moreover, unlike Ojukwu, Chief Awolowo had no control over any troops. He was also not the Governor of the Western Region (Adeyinka Adebayo was then the military Governor). As a result, he had no executive powers. Whatever powers he had were at best residual and persuasive.
Chief Awolowo had earlier called a meeting of Yoruba officers of the Nigerian army, and key officers of Yoruba stock refused to attend, with one of them sending a message to him that he was a Nigerian soldier, not a Yoruba soldier.
So given all of that, it was rather naive for anybody to have expected him to declare the secession of the Western Region from Nigeria.
It would have been like expecting Nnamdi Azikiwe to usurp Ojukwu’s powers as Governor of the Eastern Region, and announce the secession of Eastern Nigeria, and the creation of a new Biafran nation. The Ojukwu we know may have even arrested, and probably executed Zik if he had done that.
If the grudge against Chief Awolowo is founded on the £20 pounds payment to persons of Igbo origin, then I can understand it. But even that grudge is also not well founded. Because the £20 policy only affected those whose bank records could not be verified. I hazard a guess that if another person other than Awolowo was on that seat, the payment may have been £0.
But to hold a grudge against the Yorubas stemming from that Enugu meeting is in my view an injustice to a man who only went there to seek a way to avoid bloodletting.
In any case, have those who hold this view ever considered that the man, Emeka Ojukwu, for whom they hold this torch, after his return to Nigeria on May 18, 1982, joined the National Party of Nigeria, the very same party that was peopled, sponsored and supported by the very same people who prosecuted the Nigerian Civil War against him and Eastern Nigeria?
The NPN was a Northern Party that did not win a single state in Western, Midwestern (Bendel) and the Igbo states of Eastern Nigeria. The same people who founded the NPN were the very same people who advised and perhaps tele-guided Gowon.
In fact, the first National Leader of the NPN was Makaman Bida, a former member of the inner caucus of Ahmadu Bello’s Northern Peoples Congress.
This is the party that Ojukwu joined, contested for election into the Senate (and lost), and campaigned for during the 1983 Presidential election.
Taking all of this into consideration, there is no way the myth of Chief Awolowo, and all Yorubas being betrayers, can stand.
Myth two: Yorubas Are Cowards
The late Sani Abacha was the most brutal dictator in Nigeria’s history. I do not need to elaborate. His rule was a dark era in our history, and the nationwide spontaneous celebration of his death is enough shame on his memory and his family and survivors.
Having said that, Nigerians may want to recall that a certain Moshood Kashimawo Abiola stood up to the bully that was Abacha, and rightfully declared himself President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria on June 11, 1994.
That took guts! That was not the act of a coward. It was a display of bravery.
Chief Abiola was arrested on June 23, 1994, and taken to Abuja. While there, he met with General Abacha, and told Abacha to his face that he was Abacha’s boss and Abacha should show him respect. That is more than guts. That is what is called Command Presence in the military. Audacity if you will.
On August 5, 1994, Chief Abiola was offered freedom, via a bail, with certain conditions, including that he “stay away from politics”. Abiola’s response was terse. It was given by his wife, Kudirat Abiola, who said “Chief Abiola is not interested.”
That is bravery to the point of self sacrifice. Bear in mind that this was a multimillionaire in US dollars, with access to private jets, and all the modern conveniences money could buy, yet he inconvenienced himself by refusing to betray his mandate.
And after Abacha died (I never call him General. It is an insult to call the world’s biggest political thief, who is still coughing up billions 23 years after his death, a General of the Nigerian Army), Chief Abiola refused to give up his mandate, and probably died because of his principled stand.
It is therefore ridiculous for anybody to call an ethnic nationality that produced such a personality cowards.
And this is not a recent phenomenon. Whereas the Fulani jihadist army completely defeated the Hausas, they could not defeat the Yorubas. A Yoruba regiment from present day Ibadan, and led by Balogun Oderinlo, routed the Fulani army and drove them out of Oshogbo in 1840, and eventually from Yoruba land. In the process, they captured four Fulani Generals.
The popular case of Ilorin was not a military defeat, it was a case of over ambition by a rogue Yoruba, Afonja. And it was isolated to the Ilorin area. I just hope history will not repeat itself in Lagos.
During the Nigerian Civil War, Murtala Mohammed was an unmitigated military disaster. The Biafrans defeated him soundly at Abagana and almost captured him. If not for the Yoruba led Third Marine Commando, Nigeria would not have defeated Biafra at the time she did.
In the history of Nigeria, only two men have returned to Nigeria to face almost certain death even when they had the option of a very comfortable political asylum abroad. Both of them are Yoruba. In 1985, General Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida toppled the Buhari regime while Major General Tunde Idiagbon (mixed Yoruba/Fulani) was at Mecca yet Idiagbon returned.
In 1995, Olusegun Obasanjo (pure Owu Yoruba) was accused of planning a coup by the blood thirsty tyrant, Abacha (if you do not like that truthful description of Abacha or if you believe that ‘Abacha did not loot’, you can go and join him where he is) while he was away in Copenhagen.
He was informed by the then US Ambassador, Walter Carrington, that Abacha meant to arrest, try and execute him, and was offered political asylum in the United States.
He returned to face almost certain death.
What more example of bravery can there be than these two shining ones.
Furthermore, there is the apocryphal example of Colonel Francis Adekunle Fajuyi who chose to die with the then Head of State, Johnson Aguiyi-Ironsi, rather than abandon his guest, which he was at liberty to do.
The Yoruba are a very tactful and diplomatic people. These are attributes that some people mistake for cowardice, or sycophancy. They are a people who understand how to stoop to conquer.
This is what Scripture meant in 2 Corinthians 10:4 “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty”. Wisdom, courtesy, diplomacy, and praise are all weapons. A weapon is anything you can use to achieve your strategic objective. It does not always have to be a physically offensive weapon.
Myth three: The Yoruba are Clannish, They Form Cliques Against Non Yoruba
The most metropolitan place in Nigeria is the Southwest. The reason being that no other ethnicity is as religiously tolerant and ethnically accommodating as the Yoruba.
And I am very glad that by sheer coincidence, former President Jonathan said as much last week. I had nothing to do with him saying it.
The most prosperous place for an Igbo man in Nigeria is not Nnewi or Onitsa. According to Robert Neuwirth, an American journalists and investigator, Igbos make $4 billion each year from Alaba International Market. There is nowhere else in Nigeria where they generate such a high turnover.
The richest Black man on planet Earth is Aliko Dangote, and his wealth largely comes from Lagos and the Southwest, where he has assets in excess of $4 billion.
The fact that other Nigerians can come to the Southwest and prosper there more than they prospered in their home regions speaks volumes of the accommodativeness of the Yoruba.
How many Igbo Alaba traders have been kidnapped, abducted or killed? But they are kidnapped, abducted and killed in the Southeast.
Terrorists, bandits and Boko Haram have never targeted Aliko Dangote in the Southwest. But in the North, both billionaire and almajiri are vulnerable.
People erroneously think that the Yoruba are clannish, because they maintain and retain their cultural values, when it clashes with other cultures.
So, in an office environment, a Yoruba person is likely to clique with Yoruba speakers. Notice I did not say they are likely to clique with Yorubas. I said they are likely to clique with Yoruba speakers. It is their culture they like. If you flow with their culture, they will also flow with you.
That is why the Yoruba have the highest number of elected non indigenes representing their states, than any other region.
There are natives of the Southeast and South South who won election to represent various Lagos constituencies in the House of Representatives. Oghene Egoh, Rita Orji and Tony Nwoolu are some of them.
Where else is that happening in Nigeria?
Yoruba-phobes should try to understand that the tendency of the Yoruba to retain their full culture within Nigeria and when they travel abroad is not clannishness. It is in their blood.
How do I know this? Because I am an avid traveler.
During the Transatlantic Slave Trade, slaves where taken from almost every Black African ethnic group. However, only the Yoruba slaves retained their culture on a large scale throughout the Americas (the Umbundo also retained some of their culture, but they are limited to Brazil).
In the Brazilian state of Bahia, they speak a patois of Portuguese and Yoruba. The state is 80% Black and they bare Yoruba names. As a matter of fact, after Nigeria, Brazil has the second largest population of people of Yoruba descent. Please fact check me. I deal in facts, not speculation.
In Latin America and the Caribbean, there are an estimated 50 million believers in the Santeria religion. It may shock you to note that Santeria is based on Yoruba traditional worship. In fact, the name for god in Santeria is Orisha, a Yoruba word. Eshu, Sango, and Ifa feature prominently in Santeria.
So, you can see how deep Yoruba culture is, to the extent that even centuries of slavery could not wipe it away.
Go to Jamaica and there are Yorubas there.
There were Hausa, Swahili, Bantu, Oromo, Igbo and other Black African slaves taken to the Americas. None have kept their cultural identity like the Yoruba slaves.
Listen to Rap music and compare it to Fuji and Juju. You notice the same trend. Boasting, women shaking their booties, rivals dissing their opponents. Before Tupac and Biggie dissed each other, Sikiru Ayinde Barrister and Ayinla Kollington had released their own diss tracks.
When you visit London, you may be confused if you think Yoruba is the only African language in existence.
A Yoruba man can enter a quiet bus and receive a phone call and speak in Yoruba, and won’t feel embarrassed. And I am not referring to a Johnny Just Come. I am referring to second generation Yorubas who were born and brought up in England,
I have been traveling the world from childhood, yet I have not encountered people doing that with much wider spoken African languages, such as Swahili and Hausa.
They may speak it privately in their homes abroad. but not publicly, and even if they do, it is not to the extent of the Yoruba.
It has gotten to the extent that the Metropolitan Police now recruit Yoruba speaking Constables, and Harrods now employ Yoruba speaking cashiers. Oh please do not just take my words at face value. Fact check me.
Go to Houston on a Sunday, you will see Yoruba people everywhere in their native wears, adire, plus abeti aja and eleti aja.
Here in California, other Africans now draw crowd to their parties by saying ‘the Nigerians will be there.’
This will annoy other tribes, including mine, however, when foreigners talk about how cool Nigerians are, they are usually referring to Yorubas.
Take it or leave it, but the Yoruba are the most progressive Black people on the face of planet Earth.
They produced the first Black African Nobel laureate for an academic category (Wole Soyinka), and the first Black African military ruler to have voluntarily handed over to a civilian President (Olusegun Obasanjo), and the first Nigerian to win a Grammy Award (Sade Adu) as well as the first person born and bred in Africa to have won a Pulitzer Prize (Dele Olojede).
The reason why Yorubas are the biggest music stars of Nigerian origin is because they are unabashedly Yoruba. They do not try to sing or act like Westerners. They are very in-your-face with their Yoruba-ness. And when people like themselves to such a high degree, others tend to join them in liking them.
There are an estimated 15 Black billionaires on Planet Earth. Three of them are Yoruba. More than any ethnic nationality in Africa. It used to be four, but one of them slipped down the rankings.
US President, Joe Biden, named a Yoruba man, Adewale Adeyemo, as deputy Treasury Secretary. This is the highest position to which a Black African has been appointed (not elected) in US history. Another Yoruba man, Dr. Oluyinka Olutoye, became the first person on Earth to successfully perform a surgery by taking out an unborn fetus from its mother’s womb and putting it back after the surgery.
77% of all Black doctors in America are of either African or Caribbean origin, and a very large percentage of these are Yoruba.
I commend the Edekiri people (the real name of the Yoruba). They are neither betrayers, or cowards or clannish people. They are omoluabi. They are oni te si iwaju.
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Reno Omokri
Gospeller. Deep Thinker. #1 Bestselling author of Facts Versus Fiction: The True Story of the Jonathan Years. Avid traveller. Hollywood Magazine Film Festival Humanitarian of the Year, 2019.
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You have the power to summon a stronger positive thought into your mind whenever a negative thought attempts to break into your mind
I am stuck in a burning flame,a flame of loneliness which I got used to,a flame of inferiority.
Each seconds that passes by the flame increases. When my emotions go haywire the flame increases.
I got used to and felt comfortable in it cos it felt like home. It blocked my sight to seeing the misdeeds of everyone around me,it blocked my feelings that I felt numb cos I got used to the pain from the burning flame.
I couldn’t cry neither could I feel the hurt.it became my shield shielding me from the world,from the atrocities men committed. But while in the flame I quested for freedom I quested for a cold hands.
As if my wish was granted he came stretching his hand to me, he was exactly what I needed. He was going to bring peace to my burning heart. The look in his eyes spoke love and calmness.
He assured me he was going to be there. He was mine to hold,mine to love and mine to live for. He gave me the hope of a better tomorrow.
With him I felt true love and calmness. But then I told him I was a burning flame he didn’t say a word but rather stretched his hand towards me….then and only then did I know I have found my ICE the ICE which I longed for.
Many Nigerians wish to dive into the business world but the biggest problem most always encounter is the problem of capital. And this is why I put up this article, this article is about businesses you can actually start with little or no capital.
Tea/coffee vendor
You need a trolley to hawk your drinks. The capital required is to shop for the trolley and therefore the beverages, but you’ll need to move from one place to a different one so as to form reasonable sales.
Alternatively, you’ll get a store during a hot spot in town.
snack counter retailer
What you are doing here is to retail snacks already prepared by other companies like UAC Foods. you would like a trolley to maneuver about and if you’re at the proper places, there’s every chance you’ll observe sales.
Plumbing services
If you’ve got the knowledge of putting in and repairing sinks, toilets, water pipes, etc. you’ll enter this business since homeowners usually have problems that need a plumber. Your investment is that the little tools needed for the work.
You can make piles during this business if you’re good to build contact with building contractors. you’ll get contracts worth millions to handle plumbing for buildings, companies, and more
Vulcanizing services
This is a simple business but you want to undergo training to be ready to roll in the hay. The equipment you would like mainly to try to to this business is that the tire pumping equipment, and you’ll fix yourself up at a roadside.
Electronics maintenance
You must undergo a period of coaching to try to do this job. you’ve got to rent a store where you repair DVD/VCD players. Also, you’ll repair all types of radios.. small-cap is required for this business.
Electrical maintenance
This also requires a period of coaching to master the trade. to start out the business, you want to rent a store and obtain the tools needed to hold out the repairs.
The business is about fixing electrical issues reception and general electrical services.
You can make a pile if you build contact with building engineers. you’ll get regular contracts to handle wiring or buildings, companies then on.
Refrigerator servicing
A period of coaching is required for this business. Though it doesn’t require much capital, you want to rent a store and buy tools that are necessary to try to do the work.
Your job is going to be to service the fridge and freezers.
painting
You must find out how to color houses before you’ll do that work. However, you are doing not need to rent a store at the start, just lollygag around a paint shop or rather leave your telephone number, they’re going to always contact you when someone needs your services.
When you make enough money, you’ll rent a store, do a card. you’ll make a pile once you have contracts to color buildings.
Car painting
This is a really lucrative business people don’t check out frequently. Every day, cars get scratched and everyone that. The owners want it painted to seem new.
In some states, once you buy a replacement car for a taxi or other transportation business, you’ll get to pant it to a selected color.
That is where a car painter is available. There are tons of cash to be made. I even have painted my car a few times and it cost tons. Guess what? my car painter has built his own house from this business!
You will get to learn the skill and obtain a painting machine and an area.
Photography/video recording
This business requires a period of coaching for you to try to do it well. It also requires you to shop for cameras, video cameras, s, and laptops.
To be known within the business and secure customers, you want to attend places that events are happening and eventually have your own shop. Those during this business easily survive, it’s recommended for males and feminine.
Motor mechanic
You may need an extended period of coaching and it’s a male-dominated business but women also are very successful in it. After the training, you would like to start to repair cars for your clients which you started knowing once you were an apprentice, eventually, you rent a workshop. you would like tools for your business, therefore the business doesn’t require much capital.
House cleaning
Some big people and corporations are trying to find house cleaners. No financial investment is required here, what it takes to try to do the work is to be strong. it’s not necessary to get on day to day, so it’s possible you’ll do two of the roles and obtain paid mainly on monthly basis.
You can recruit people to hitch you once you have plenty of clients.
Catering services
Some people do parties and wish someone to provide the food for the party. It requires you to purchase cooking utensils and make contacts and obtain information on those planning parties within the immediate future. Investment required here is that the amount it’ll cost you to form the meals required at the party.
If you cook for giant evens as wedding, company meetings, political banquets, and more, you’ll make tons f money.
Collaborate with event planners and you’ll always have jobs.
Phone charging business
Since not every area is furnished with electricity, the business opportunity is now created for you to charge peoples’ phones.
All you to try to do is to urge a little generator set, construct charging points, buy few chargers and you’re in business. confirm you promote your business around your base in order that people are going to be aware.
Networking business
This wont to be a really popular business in Nigeria but since tons of individuals lost huge sums of cash to MMM, the recognition of networking businesses is waning. what’s required during this business is to understand tons of individuals you’ll introduce into the business also as by the company’s products purchasable to your friends.
There are tons of networking businesses.
Babysitting/childcare business
Today’s mothers attend work and where to stay their young babies becomes a drag. So as a lady or man who has soft spot for babies, you’ll start this business and if you’re good to children, the sky is your limit.
You can begin with a neighborhood of your apartment if it’s spacious enough, then later rent a befitting home for the babies.
Pet care business
People who love and keep pets sometimes get away on holidays if this is often the case, it becomes a drag for the pets since they can’t be taken along on holidays. it’s a profitable business thus far you’ll promote your business-wide enough. It doesn’t require huge investment aside from space and animal feeds.
You can also look out for sick pets for a fee.
Low-income manpower supply business
Restaurant/Domestic workers are in great demand everywhere in big cities in Nigeria and fixing manpower recruitment companies, you’ll shovel in an honest fortune in no time. What it requires maybe a small space and mobile phones but it must be promoted widely for awareness.
Gardening services business
Lots of houses within the big cities are decorated with flowers and sometimes times they have a lawns/flower cutter who will keep the flower round the compound neat and clean. No capital is required except your expertise and you’re handsomely paid.
Sewing/sales of stitching accessories
For this business, you want to learn the trade before you’ll start it. you want to undergo a period of apprentice before you’ll begin accepting jobs from people. If you good are at sewing, you’ll grow quickly.
Event organizer party services
You can offer decorations, parking facilities, and general planning for people that want to host parties. In big cities, every weekend it’s happening somewhere in town and event organizers have tons of labor to try to do.
Apart from parties, other events like meetings, conferences workshops, etc., you’ll undertake to place things together for the hosts. you are doing not need very much capital but expertise.
Online content writing
This business doesn’t require much capital since what you would like is a piece of expert knowledge in a particular area, laptop, mobile, and access to the web. If you’re good, the roles will locate you and you’ll be rewarded accordingly.
Use websites like Upwork to seem for jobs.
Snail farming business
This is an easy and low-cost business to venture into. Though you would like to understand about snail farming to try to to this business you would like not such a lot money to start out it. and since snails lay eggs in hundreds, feeds on leaves and fruits, and don’t demand much of some time, it’s a business anybody can do.
Online Email marketing
This business requires you to possess an email list of blog subscribers to market certain products. it’s actually suitable for people that like to talk, write, explain and have the power to influence. It doesn’t require cash investment except for your talent.
Online Copywriting
There is no capital injection for this business but you want to be vast in writing advertising copy that’s meant to influence people to shop for products. So you want to have the power to write down sales copy which will sell products.
Online Freelance data entry business
These days many businesses collect a huge amount of knowledge like customer details, product details, research data, etc. These data are collected via various media, forums, surveys than on. These data got to be aggregated into one platform where you’ll study and analyze it. So a contract data entry personnel will perform the work and if he does well, can attract many rewards.
Graphic designer business
Quality graphics help to create the merchandise brand’s image into customer’s eyes, they create a long-lasting positive impression on people.
New products are launched a day and there’s a growing demand for graphics designers. to try to do the business, it’s assumed you’ve got the skill and you are doing not need to invest much money except your computer, mobile and internet access.
Whatsapp business
You can do that business by creating a lively group on Whatsapp and add members thereto. Then get links of products you would like to sell and paste them to the Whatsapp group. it’s going to even be your product.
If any member clicks on the link and buys the merchandise, you’ll be getting an honest amount of commission. So it doesn’t require capital except for your mobile and internet access.
YouTube channel
This is one among the simplest and even successful thanks to making money. it’s an open platform for those that create their own music content, video and publish them on the web, it can reach a targeted audience worldwide.
However, you want to be creative, in order that you’ll make children’s play, for instance, and publish on the web. It needs no investment intrinsically but your talent, and you create such a lot of money from this business.
Social media marketing
These days, billions of individuals spend most of their time on the web. The goal of social media marketing is to assist companies and businesses reach these people online.
You do not need any capital aside from knowledge.
MakeUp business
People, especially women can’t do without makeup lately. they have it to seem beautiful and more professional.
Some need it for business reasons like movies than on.
All you would like is skills and keenness for the work. It doesn’t cost much to start out.
Okrika business
This is one of the foremost trending business ideas in Nigeria because people will always have a need for clothes.
Okrika clothes are the foremost wanted among the center and class.
You don’t need much capital to start out. It all depends upon the size you would like to start out.
Among small profitable business ideas, this one here is extremely lucrative.
Tinubu, A Failure That Should Never Become Nigeria’s President
Nemesis does not only befall those who deliberately impoverish their people, it consumes their children too. The socio-political space in Nigeria has been polluted with criminality.
Bola Ahmed Tinubu, a sociopath and betrayer of trust against MKO Abiola during NADECO era, is a desperate politician who is unmoved by the current crisis rocking the nation. The country can burn if it so desire, provided that his ambition to clinch power in 2023 is intact.
Bola Ahmed Tinubu, who claims to be a more profound nationalist than Chief Obafemi Awolowo, has not even achieved an atom of Awolowo’s achievement. His colloquium has been a jamboree that hasn’t achieved any result, however infinitesimal. Neither did he continue from what Awolowo left behind.
It’s the empty vessel that’s usually noisy, the one containing water isn’t. The legacy Chief Obafemi Awolowo left behind, such as the democratisation of education and several others, remain relevant several years later. The ideology of Tinubu is not only to ruin any organisation but also to hijack it as his own private entity – Lagos and Osun states are examples of why Tinubu must be avoided by all means – like a plague.
Awolowo was a known freedom fighter, who fought for justice and equal rights throughout his lifetime. He contributed in the fight for independence, liberated his own people and gave them western education.
On the contrary, Tinubu has not only impoverished Lagosians, he made sure thousands of them are out of school so he can use them as hoodlums during elections. For instance, how many “agberos” has he given free education or scholarship? Instead, he arms them with tools to mob opposition members, his critics and then imposes himself over the will of the people.
Awolowo was a promoter of peace and unity, his immense contributions towards the development of Nigeria was as a result of free education and free healthcare system for the children in the Western Region, as it was then known.
Tinubu was an opportunist who rode on Awolowo’s establishment in the South-West, the aforementioned achievements of Chief Obafemi Awolowo can never be compared to a treacherous eight-year rule of Tinubu as a Governor of Lagos State. These eight years were wasted years that amounted to a fruitless journey that bore no good seed.
Tinubu deceptively claimed that Major-General Muhammadu Buhari would make heaven as a second home in Nigeria, but Buhari brought hell instead. Indeed, someone whose character is questionable in the US should never be trusted with a sensitive position in Nigeria, let alone becoming President! May it never happen!
His motives and ways of manipulating people against each other is another matter entirely. He previously said: “I don’t believe in one Nigeria.” Such a man should not be considered a true democrat.
Those who don’t believe in one Nigeria like Tinubu will do all sort of things to cause chaos in the country just to gain access to power. They will mobilise thugs to deal with people who kick against their political ambition. Tinubu is well-known as the grand patron of thugs in the entire South-West.
He was indicted by the United States Government for drug and fraud related offences in 1993, to the extent that he forfeited 460,000 US Dollars to the United States government. So, apparently, the National Leader of APC, as they call him, has some unanswered questions to answer over drug crimes and criminal activities he reportedly committed in the United states.
Lagos State under his watch as governor was bastardised and ruined to the most miserable state. He acquired lands and properties, converted them with the state treasuries as his personal businesses.
Remember when he justified the killing of Pa Fasoranti’s daughter who was killed by Fulani herdsmen? It is also obvious that Tinubu has no sympathy or respect for humanity. None at all!
Tinubu who used semen as soap in the United states, urine as a water in Nigeria, can never in anyway stand to become Nigeria’s president. Nigerians should never again support a mediocre, anti-democratic forces who pose as democrat in agbada, people with shady records or criminals who cannot be trusted with basic things!
Orun has been translated as Heaven.But the truth is Orun and Islamic / Christian Heaven doesn’t mean the same thing. The idea of heaven filled with golden streets, 72 virgins and mansion is Alien to us. Also the concept of Heaven is UP and Hell is Down is foreign to us. infact, we don’t have the equivalent of Hellfire in Yoruba language .. The word hell was translated as Orun Apadi. Apadi literally mean “Broken Pot” The original stance of afterlife of the yoruba people is misconceived/altered by Islam and christianity.
So what is Orun? Orun is a contraction of Orirun. The word Orirun is formed from two words “Ori” and “Run” Ori is very important to yoruba people, that’s why you can’t see any Yoruba art or sculpture without the head, sometimes it’s just the head.
There are two types of Ori: (1) Ori Òde (Physical Head)
used extensively to mean — The top — The Physical Self(A whole) — The Pinnace — The highest point — The main place — The major point
(2) Ori Inú (Spiritual Head) — Soul — Spiritual self Used extensively as: –Destiny –Life path –Life purpose
When “Run” means: –Originated (from) –initiate (from) –stem (from)
When you put Orí-run together it means the main place of origination. The synonyms will be “The Source” The word doesn’t suggest a particular place in the sky. According to Yoruba belief, when you die, you join your soul group. It might be below the ground, Jupiter, or one of the stars. Orírun (The source) is not a specific place. They believe that when you die, you go back to that particular source you came from. Orun or Orirun is not one specific place where everybody goes. Orun is just a strong version of Orírun. There is no promise of mansions, streets filled with gold, praising a deity for eternity while others burn in hell.
In 2008 the research topic for my 2nd Masters programme was titled “International Small Arms Regime And The State:” The focus was on Africa and Nigeria.
Professor Peter Gowan had pulled me to his office and said “Do you really want to do it?” I told him I suspected Nigeria was going to be the next Ground Zero in small arms proliferation. My research topic was inspired by my own experience. I had resigned as Secretary General of the Pan Yoruba self-determination group, the Oodua People’s Congress. The founding principle of the OPC were mainly to unite peoples of Yoruba heritage, protect and defend Yoruba interests in the Nigerian federation, promote Yoruba culture, campaign for true federalism by encouraging autonomous regions and ethnic nationalities to seek self-determination and resource control within the Nigerian federation. Myself, Dr Beko Ransome Kuti who was elected Treasurer and a couple of others had been invited by the OPC leadership to help ‘sanitise’ the organisation. The organisation was before our arrival bugged down with factional conflicts. The few years I spent within the OPC exposed me to a lot of practical realities about conflicts, its management, how a simple disagreement between citizens can suddenly escalate and grow into communal conflicts with attendant violence, it also exposed character of the Nigerian State and particular the manipulative nature of elite politics.
Having failed to stem the tide of violence within the OPC and with first-hand knowledge on armed conflicts. I had always wondered why how it was so easy for none state actors to procure arms in Nigeria. Thus my research topic was going to genuinely seek knowledge. Those who know me from my University of Jos days can attest to the fact that theoretical academic exercise wasn’t my forte. Practical social science research was more appealing.
Back to my dissertation topic. Dr Marko Bojcun spotted my topic by “accident”. If I had not met Dr Bojcun, my work would have just been an “academic exercise”. Marko it was who linked me with contacts. I was privileged to visit 4 core small arms supply routes in 4 different European countries. One of the trip led me in uncovering Nigerian players in the international small arms market.
The Bosnian Connect:
A contact in Bosnia linked me up with a Nigerian player. He was then reputed as one of if not the most important Nigerian player in the illegal small arms trade. We met and he assisted in my research work. He claimed then he doesn’t supply Nigerian clients out of principle. Impressive, well connected and well-travelled, he made a good impression on me and you have to sometimes pinch yourself to remind yourself that he was dealing in items that may have caused the death of hundreds of thousands of innocent people across the globe, particularly Africa. But, he was convinced this was business, he wasn’t responsible for what end users do with the ‘commodity’.
Anyway it later turned out he had lied to me about not supplying arms in Africa. I only found out by a twist of faith in incidents related to the bombing that took place in Abuja, the Nigerian capital on the 1st October 2010.
I was at the eagle Square, I was invited to the ceremony marking Nigeria’s Independence as a guest of the Nigerian information Minister Dora Akunyili. I was actually in Nigeria entirely for a scoop we were working on for Sahara Reporters. Mrs Akunyili always made it a point to reach out to those who may be seen as opposed to the government to take part in national events. At the Eagle Square a bomb went off, I was with my friend Egghead Odewale, I was recoding the ceremony at the centre of the square, but we rushed from the square towards the sound, we were just outside the venue when the 2nd bomb went off, we later discovered they were car bombs.
The Abuja bomb incident led the Nigerian secret police Directorate of State Security Service to raid some homes across Nigeria, just by chance whilst preparing to leave Nigeria I saw the DSS spokesperson Marilyn Ogar displayed some recovered arms and military hardware on TV. I recognised something. Those arms, hardware, something familiar. Something recognisable in some of the items I had come across years back during my research and exchange of samples and photographs with my Nigerian contact for my research work.
I put a call through to the Nigerians arms dealer I had met during my research, we had maintained contacts over the years, mainly exchanging views on the state of Nigeria and particularly the degradation in the Niger Delta region. He did not need to say much, he said he made an exemption to the rule to protect the people of the Niger Delta. Not that I was surprised but it was the ease of bringing the supplies into Nigeria. Not just AK47. But Rocket Propelled Grenades, military hardware, special forces helmet, night vision google, bomb-making explosive materials, camping materials. Some came in through Nigerian Ports, others via the ‘Fayawo’ (Yoruba street slang for smuggling) route. Ease of doing business worked best for arms dealers. Easier to import bombs than import bread.
Nigeria’s borderless international borders: The North.
The insurgents in the Northern part of Nigeria have the Americans to thank the Americans for destabilizing Libya and North Africa, A large number of fighters of Nigerian heritage who had been guests of Libyan Presidents Ghaddafi’s training camps found home within emerging terrorist in Northern Nigeria, they came with free arms, experience and resources, those in countries neighbouring Nigeria chose Nigeria rather than go back to their country of origin. Small arms proliferation in the North and basically amongst North state actors in Niger, Northern Nigeria and Chad increased.
Frontline states in Northern Nigeria maintain artificial international borders. So one could excuse the ease of small arms coming in from North Africa. Let us take Borno and Sokoto State as a case study, at least I have visited both states and saw things for myself in the Nigeria’s so called international border areas. Borno borders the Republic of Niger to the north, Lake Chad (and the Republic of Chad) to the northeast, and Cameroon to the east; at least in one of the borders that I visited, there are no physical structures dividing Nigeria from the neighbouring countries, these are vast mass lands with people settled in hamlets across ungoverned territories, you only need to approach the official border which is usually a wooden plank on the road and a small building to stamp your passports.
Sokoto state borders the Republic of Niger to the north, during my visit to the border area enroot Niger, what was described a border was basically 3 small buildings, few custom and immigration officers and a lot of commercial activities stretching miles with movements in and out on both sides, myself and my minders were the only one who bordered to approach the immigration to stamp passports. Historically the people on either side of the Niger and Nigerian lines are the same people, they do not recognise borders and move on moto cycles taking goods in and out, this are easy traffic routes for arms, drugs and contrabands, the same is applicable when I got to the Republic of Niger side.
Nigeria’s borderless international borders: The South.
Southern Nigerian borders are not as secure as most Nigerians would like to believe. I will restrict myself to what I have experienced. I live in Ayobo and from my house to the Idi Iroko an international border between Nigeria and the Republic of Benin, it has taken me less than 3 hours drive at dead night, at the Idi Iroko border, you can chose to go trough the official border area but I know of at least 13 on official routes, 2nd car importers have over time created artificial routes and Nigerian Customs and Immigration are unable to catch up. They have mostly resigned themselves to collecting ‘rents’ from the smugglers. Idiroko illegal border routes is a blessing to the people in Ipokia local government of Ogun State in Nigeria. Some of the locals act as guides and minders if you want to avoid the official border posts or have something to hide with the aim of avoiding the prying eyes of security agents. The Nigeria-Benin border is one of the most porous in Southern Nigeria. Closing the border can affect big merchandise but not for the supply of small arms that can be dismantled and moved in adaptable casings.
Lagos Sea and Airports:
An illegal arms dealer once confirmed how the Nigerian airport NAHCO Cargo area is a soft spot for arms smugglers, the arms cartel in the facility are reputed to run like a cult, feared and influential. To them it is business and nothing more .
At the Lagos sea port a “runner” will sometimes send 7 containers, tease customs to discover 2 containers as a form of distraction and that is still good business for the supplier, and good public relations for the officials, everyone wins, mainly eastern European small arms main source suppliers add the “test run” cargo into the price so you lose nothing really.
The C problem:
Corruption: Officials usually turn a blind eye at our ports, the small arms trade is very organized, it is a cartel. those involved don’t see weapons of mass destruction, they see merchandise and profit. They are in our ports, customs, immigration, and military.
The I problem:
Institutional incompetence. Nigeria usually send ‘Military intelligence officers’ to its embassies across the globe, one would expect MIO’s at Nigerian embassies in small arms supply countries to gather actionable intelligence for tracking, tracing and interception, sadly this is not the case. They hardly monitor the activities of gun runners and Nigerians importing arms to cause harm against Nigerians in Nigeria.
National Intelligence Agency (NIA) Rather than focus on criminal activities, possibly one of the have very well paid officers. NIA officers are posted across the globe doing everything but the job they are paid to do. If Nigeria is to stop the menace it must review the activities of the intelligence community to work for the Nigerian people.
DSS: To be honest, the DSS is probably the most effective security apparatus only if they focus on disrupting crime against the state, particularly criminal gangs, they can embed within gangs and plant human sources, SSS did it so well against us in the student’s movement in 80’s. SSS in the past planted moles within the student and pro-democracy movements in Nigeria. In local government areas, your driver or house help could be an SSS operative, we saw how the SSS sourced the driver to Kudirat Abiola and turned him into an asset. The problem isn’t that we do not have intelligent officers but that they are used for sadistic purposes. Gone are the days when SSS would have human intelligence even with groups as radical as Boko Haram.
The L problem:
The loyalty problem is when all our security apparatus are primed by governments in Nigeria from the military era to the civilian governments to focus on the survival of elected officials than the survival of the state. Nigeria has over time diverted the best of its crime-fighting organs away from intercepting crimes to the protection of people in government.
Years back I met with a Nigerian NSA (Now late) and then later met a COAS, they served in the same government, the meeting held in the UK. I desperately raised my concerns but came out of both meetings depressed, knowing those who are appointed to protect Nigerians are as helpless as those they protect. It is the same TODAY! Not a lot has changed,
Guns are easy purchase:
So those alarmed that bandits (TERRORISTS) are brandishing military-grade weapons, are detached from the Nigerian reality, light and small arms are easily purchasable in Nigeria. All you need is to ACTIVATE a contact and delivery is assured almost risk-free.
The Nigerian government should in addition to other strategy focus on CUTTING THE SUPPLY CHAIN OF SMALL ARMS. Nigeria right now is a weak point in the West African illegal small arms supply route, apply the same strategy as you do on drug dealers. Cut the head of the snake.
Boko Haram and co may depend on captured arms, but I doubt if Nigeria has taken time to look at its stock, an audit of the National armoury to stop bad eggs who sell to willing buyers. A serious local, state and national strategy should be considered before it is too late, that is if it isn’t too late.
I have left out particular details, hoping those in government will take the hint and strategize.
For those complaining about my grammar. Sorry, wish I could do better. I hope you the grammar did not make you miss the bigger picture. The main message.
May Nigeria WIN!
The above is an expansion of a thread by Kayode Ogundamisi on Twitter under the handle @ogundamisi
Best friend is a person who you value above other friends in your life, someone you have fun with, someone you trust and someone in whom you confide.
Marriage is something that freaks many people out, knowing that you’ll have to spend the rest of your life with another person. There are thousands of questions running in your mind regarding your future married life. However, these concerns vanish when you end up marrying the person you’ve known since ages; that’s right, your best friend! We, in this LoveBondings post, tell you some reasons as to why you should marry your best friend.
Marriage is for an eternity, a really, really long time that you will spend with someone by your side always. You will be living with this person under one roof, sharing each and everything, seeing the ups and downs in life together, breathing the same air, and seeing his/her face everyday for the rest of your life. Who else would you want to do all this with, other than your bestie? Married life is indeed a roller coaster ride full of twists and turns for everyone, but when you know that your best friend is with you at all times, you’ll enjoy it even more and get through it easily.
A recent study by the National Bureau of Economic Research showed that, married people are much happier than singles, and those who consider their spouse to be their best friend get about twice as much life satisfaction from marriage as compared to others. A successful marriage is one where you can be yourself without being judged, and that one person is definitely your best friend. Friendship is the first step towards any successful marriage, because your spouse would be the one you’ll want to see every day, and in good or bad times as well. You would want someone whom you can confide in, enjoy their company, and support each other through thick and thin. So, if you’ve fallen in love with your best friend, then don’t hesitate in taking a step ahead, because your marriage will surely be a bliss and make your journey all the more better. Here’s why you should consider marrying your best friend.
Marry Your Best Friend Because… You Know Each Other In and Out
You Know Each Other In and Out You both know each other so well, that by looking at each other’s faces, you can tell what the other person may be thinking. You are aware of each other’s likes and dislikes, more than your own; for example, favorite movies, music, sports, drinks etc. Therefore, the getting-to-know-each-other phase will be skipped, and you won’t have to take efforts to know each other. But there will be no hidden surprises and disappointments, which may happen if you marry someone who you don’t know that well.
You Can Be Yourself
You Can Be Yourself As best friends, you know each others flaws and still choose to stick with them, no matter what. A true friend will always look for the best in you, and find ways to bring out the good in you. There can be days when you may not look beautiful or handsome, but your best friend will keep loving you the same way. You can behave and do all those crazy things in front of him/her, without being conscious. Nothing can be embarrassing to even discuss or do with your best friend around.
You’ll Have a Partner in Crime for a Lifetime
You’ll Have a Partner in Crime for a Lifetime If you’ve been best friends with your spouse the entire life, right from your childhood, you surely may be remembering all the crazy, stupid, and mischievous things that you’ve done together. You must have been partners in many crimes and have laughed over. Growing up or marrying doesn’t mean that you’ll stop having fun. We’re sure you want to do something like that even now. Is there anything better than having a person you can be crazy with, and who loves you more than anything in this world?
You’ll Have Fun Always
You’ll Have Fun Always You would obviously want to marry someone you enjoy spending time with. We need fun an excitement in every walk of life. The ability to have fun is one thing that will keep your relationship strong throughout. So, who can be better than your bestie to enjoy your life with, no matter what the two of you end up doing?
The Love Will Be Unconditional
The Love Will Be Unconditional No matter what you do or how much ever you fight, your best friend will always be there for you. They won’t judge you, look down upon you, or make you feel bad about yourself. They only know how to lift up your spirits, and make you see a ray of light even at the darkest of times. They will not put any conditions before you, and will love you for who you are, without expecting much in return!
You Share the Same Interests and Goals
You Share the Same Interests and Goals You both have so many common interests and goals that you won’t ever get bored of each other. Whatever you may choose to do, the other person will always be ready for it. Moreover, they’ll respect your choices even if they don’t understand them. Having the same interests also gives you a better chance of bonding with each other. As they say, “The couple that plays together, stays together.”
You Can’t Stay Mad at Each Other for Too Long
You Can’t Stay Mad at Each Other for Too Long You’ve seen each other at the worst, and even had the worst of fights, but eventually made up and started off from where you had left before. A small argument will not jeopardize your relationship. And whenever you fight, you know that you can’t stay mad at each other for too long, because you know you’ll miss each other and feel bad for picking up a fight. Isn’t that how a relationship or marriage should be?
Life Would Be An Adventure
Our daily activities and craziest of adventures are the best when done with best friends. No matter how crazy your dreams or adventures may be, they’ll be the first ones to always support you. Be it a small outing or a backpacking trip abroad, they’ll also be the best company you can have on all your trips and adventures, because you know your best friend is as crazy as you, or probably more crazier than you; that’s why you’re friends, right?
Life is Better With Them Around
Life is indeed better when you have your best friend standing by you always. Whatever happens, good or bad, they are the ones you want to go to first with the news, because telling them makes it more exciting or easy for you. A best friend will always watch your back, and put your needs before their own desires. You indeed become a better person when you are in love. It makes you more patient, and teaches you how to deal with every situation.
You’ll Become A Better Person Your best friend loves you even when you don’t deserve it. They love you even if you’ve let them down many times. However, they will also be honest on your face, and tell you when you are screwing up big time in life. They’ll let you know when you are being rude, selfish, intolerable, cranky, etc., and criticize you without you misunderstanding the main point behind it. They constantly push you towards being a better person in life, and help you grow in a relationship.
Grow Old Together
Growing old with the person you love is the best thing in the world. They are the ones who’ve stood by you in your good and bad times. Even when you grow old, you can’t stop being crazy with your best friend by your side. Because, if you have your best friend by your side, you’ll always be young at heart even when you grow old.
And you should also marry your best friend because… You can’t wait to hang out together, and look forward to meeting each other almost every day.
All your other friends think that you are a ‘couple’ already, and your families, including your dog, approve of each other as well.
With them around, you’ll always feel at home whichever part of the planet you may be in.
You won’t have to worry about disclosing your ‘past’ relationships, because you both share a common past. Also, there won’t be any scope for getting jealous of an ex here.
The transition from best friends to lovers, and eventually to spouses, is the best thing that can happen to anybody. How much ever cliche it may sound, but always look for a friend in your spouse, and your life’s journey will be fun, with more ups than downs. Of course, these were just a few reasons to marry your best friend. There are many, many more. So, how many of you have married your best friends here, or are going to? Do let us know in the comments sections below.
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