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People still never want to know what exactly the churches are: truly decietful. I got to know no Pastor is even talking about end of days or coming of the Lord Jesus. They all buy plots/acres of land for proposed sites for their new church (business center) buildings.

churches nowadays are nothing but business centers. Perhaps it has something to do with Jesus flipping tables over in the temple

Pastors will be crushing on Jeeps while 97.7% of his church members can not even afford 3 square meals a day and they say they are godly?

Well, they are good for 1 thing which we should consider them doing. They make people believe “God will do it so we are still having the hope (everyone hoping to be a millionaire) which isn’t possible because Nigeria of today is for the rich to get richer and the poor to get poorer (nothing to do about that).

I believe pastors are doing a good Job for making people believe in that hope. Imagine a church having Bullion Van (thats they makes Hell of Money after each service) what for. I really want to know what the word tithe/offering means, is it really for GOD or the Pastors with his colleagues. I wonder what its all about.

People still never want to know what exactly the churches are: truly decietful. I got to know no Pastor is even talking about end of days or coming of the Lord Jesus. They all buy plots/acres of land for proposed sites for their new church (business center) buildings.

Is the world really coming to an end ? Hell No! We all die one after the other and the more people die the more the new ones are born so count that out.

I have a strong aversion to the church being run like a business. Perhaps it has something to do with Jesus flipping tables over in the temple:

And He found in the temple those who were selling oxen and sheep and doves, and the money changers seated at their tables. And He made a scourge of cords, and drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen; and He poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables; and to those who were selling the doves He said, “Take these things away; stop making My Father’s house a place of business.” (John 2:14-16 NASB)

This is a picture of Jesus we rarely hear about.

We see Jesus as the Good Shepherd who seeks for, loves, and protects His sheep. We see Him as the One who heals the sick and sets the oppressed free. We see Him embracing children and loving women whom society has cast out. We see Him teaching the multitudes and pouring into His disciples.

But, angry Jesus? Flipping over tables and using a whip to drive people from the temple?

When the disciples saw Jesus in this state of righteous anger they were reminded of what is written in Psalms 69:9: “Zeal for Your house will consume Me.” What caused this type of passionate zeal? Simply put, the house of God had been turned into a business.

When the Church Becomes a Business
Read the words of Jesus again: “Stop making my Father’s house a place of business.” These words ought to put the fear of the Lord into every pastor and ministry leader; they should cause those of us leading churches to sincerely evaluate our approach. Have we—especially in the Western church—turned the Father’s house into a business?

When the church becomes a business:

-Pastors function more like CEOs

-Members are turned into customers

-Other churches are seen as competition

-Evangelism is reduced to marketing

-Church planting looks more like franchising

-Numbers are the primary measure of success

-Prayer and fasting is replaced by programs and formulas

-Preaching sounds more like motivational speaking

-Worship is turned into a performance

-The saints are entertained instead of equipped

-Disciples of Christ become disciples of a church brand

-A living organism becomes a lifeless organization

-A leader’s empire is built instead of the kingdom of God advanced

Does any of this sound familiar?

Don’t get me wrong; there is certainly a financial element to leading a church. Even Jesus took donations and had a money bag. I am not opposed to healthy structure, budgets, or processes within a church model. And I do not believe that the size of a church is the issue here.

But I am afraid we have adopted church models in African that do not require the presence and power of God in order to be “effective.” We have taken our cues more from the world than the Word, and have often allowed the appearance of success keep us from true, lasting fruit. A church model that “works” whether or not God is involved should alarm us; and reminds me more of building the tower of Babel than the house of God.

Let’s get back to the Word of God and the presence of God. Let’s get back to the power and leading of the Holy Spirit. Let’s get back to prayer, evangelism, and discipleship. Let’s get back to the kingdom of God.

Let’s make sure that when Jesus comes to visit our churches, it’s not to flip tables over!.

REVOLUTION. According to Google Trending search analysis, the word Revolution became the most-searched-for word in Nigeria on 5August; with Oyo State leading the number of searches, followed by Port-Harcourt. Meanwhile, the ruling elite swung in with all the media apparatus available to them, to malign, confuse and scandalise the word revolution.

For now, the ruling class can breathe a sigh of relief, but all of its intelligent elements know that nothing has been solved. Nigerian society is at a complete dead end. Revolution is not merely desirable, it is a necessity. Just like the ruling class is clearly preparing itself for what is to come, so should the Marxists. Therefore, as we await the fast-approaching social explosion, it is very important that we draw crucial lessons from this particular event, so as to adequately prepare ourselves for the future.

Why do revolutions occur in some countries but not others?

Traditionally, social scientists have looked at factors such as a country’s economic situation or the strength of the government in power to predict where revolutions will happen and why.

However, such methods have not been very successful in predicting revolutions. For example, virtually no one predicted the “color” revolutions that took place in Eastern European countries in the early 2000s.

Eric Selbin, a political science professor and University Scholar at Southwestern University who studies revolutions, believes social scientists have been overlooking a key indicator: the power of cultural factors such as storytelling and the use of symbolism.

We support a call for revolution. As Marxists we also call for revolution, but we understand that no one can fix a date for a revolution. In particular, that is true for a small organisation with very little support amongst the working masses. Calling for a revolution under such circumstances ends up being pure adventurism, as the ground had not been prepared. A call for revolution that has not been systematically prepared for beforehand can lead to frustration among a certain layer of the youth who are looking to the Sowore movement, as we saw in the last election outcome which led to demoralisation of a certain layer of youths who are looking up to Sowore. This time around the disappointment could be even bigger when the young people around Sowore realise that a Revolution is not taking place. Even worse, however, is that this call has completely isolated some of the most radical youth from the broad layers of the masses and put them at the mercy of the state apparatus which can now come down heavily on them. As Alan Woods explains: “The masses will move exactly when they are ready, not a minute earlier nor a minute later”. No doubt, the situation is fast changing in a revolutionary direction. Nonetheless, to confuse the first month of pregnancy with the ninth is a serious mistake, it will not lead to birth, but painful abortion. Under no circumstances must we substitute our consciousness for the consciousness of the masses. Masses learn from their day-to-day experiences. The task of the Marxists is to follow this process and recognise when it has come to a critical point. In the meantime we must prepare the best elements amongst the youth and the workers by educating them in the ideas and methods of revolutionary Marxism. Revolution cannot be sucked out of one’s thumb. It comes about when the masses have reached a critical point and are ready to move. And it also requires a revolutionary leadership which has won the confidence of the wider masses.
We should recall that immediately after the January 2012 mass protest, the word revolution became a household word. A wing of the Nigerian ruling elite cynically latched on to this and echoed the word along with the masses. It was only in 2014 that Tinubu (one of the more astute strategists of the ruling elite), eventually concretised the kind of revolution they were describing, he said it was a “Common Sense Revolution”. This shows that the very word revolution on its own can be made into an abstraction. What sort of revolution we are waging is the key. Without very clear, sharp and bold slogans, based on class differences, based on the idea that the rich and powerful must be expropriated, those mobilising for the revolution may find it difficult to break the strong barriers of religion and ethnicity which, in the final analysis, are the shields the Nigerian ruling elite always hide behind. Only a socialist revolution, that tackles the concrete questions of jobs, wages, housing, education and healthcare, can overcome the web of contradictions that crisscross Nigerian society; and unite the workers, peasants and youth of all ethnicities. The most fundamental problems of this society cannot be solved on the basis of capitalism. This has to be boldly stated; the vague call for “Revolution” is what gave room for Atiku and other PDP thieves to sign-in to this ongoing call. If there was a call for a genuine revolution – that is, one which actually threatened the rule of the capitalist class in society – we would immediately see the ruling elite pack themselves on one side and we would see a united force of the oppressed on the other side. It is also revealing that orange is the official colour of this so-called revolution, a colour which was used by the right-wing and CIA supported forces to lean on mass movements against the government in Ukraine, which at that time was close to Putin’s Russia. As we know, the result of the Orange Revolution in Ukraine was far from the downfall of the capitalist system in that country. On the contrary, it merely strengthened one wing of the oligarchy: the pro-Western wing.
If there is one important lesson we can draw from all the recent revolutions of the masses, from the Egyptian Revolution of 2011, the Bukinababes Revolution of 2014, up to the recent Sudanese Revolution of this year, it is that the problem of leadership of the revolution has not been solved. The masses will move when they are ready to move. That should be far from being our main concern. After all, Nigerians massively moved heroically in 2012, but the issue everywhere is, if they move, is there a revolutionary leadership to lead them to revolutionary victory? By revolutionary leadership we do not mean a Messiah, a hero-worshipped individual. By leadership in the present epoch, we mean revolutionary organisation: the organisation of cadres, who are trained in the Marxist tradition and Marxist methods, who have well prepared themselves in organisation, for eventual breakout of class conflict between the haves and have-nots. As Trotsky once remarked: “The crisis of humanity can be reduced in the final analysis, to the crisis of leadership of the working class”.
This necessary revolutionary organisation is still very weak nationally. Meanwhile, the ruling elite has less and less room to manoeuvre faced with the rising anger of the masses. This will lead to an extremely turbulent period, with many ebbs and flows. The masses will have to go through many painful experiences and test out many accidental figures and organisations on their path. We also want to see an end to the present corrupt regime, but we are not prepared to take part in fooling the masses that there is another kind of capitalism, a clean, uncorrupt capitalism that operates in the interests of the working masses. No such capitalism can ever exist. So long as you have capitalism, you will have rich and poor, bosses and workers, oppressors and oppressed.

This lack of a working-class based revolutionary socialist leadership is the main reason why the revolutionary process in the next period will have a prolonged character. There will be many starts and stops, periods of joyous advance and painful retreat, highly inspiring victories and demoralising defeats. But through it all, the workers will learn, and we will steel and expand our forces. We must prepare the rank and file for this, because it is on this that the real success can be won.

On Saturday 27 July, the African Action Congress (AAC), led by former presidential candidate Omoyele Sowore, called Nigerians to a revolution, to take place on 5 August. This has predictably gained the attention of the ruling class as well as a layer of radicalised youth.

Posing the need for revolution, however, has to be done in a serious manner. It is also important to understand what a revolution is. In recent years we have had several examples of so-called “revolutions”, which have not led to the desired intentions of the masses. Indeed, we have seen “revolutions” that have in effect been their opposites, achieving nothing for the working people and merely benefitting one wing of the ruling class. So let us look at what we mean by revolution.

A genuine revolution does not merely change the faces of those in government, it radically changes the power set up, not just political power but economic power. It uproots the economic system, placing the material resources of the country under the control of those who actually produce the wealth, i.e. the workers and peasants.

Leon Trotsky, who led a genuine social revolution in 1917, posed a fundamental question: what is a revolution? And he answers the question in the following way:

“The most indubitable feature of a revolution is the direct interference of the masses in historical events. In ordinary times the state, be it monarchical or democratic, elevates itself above the nation, and history is made by specialists in that line of business – kings, ministers, bureaucrats, parliamentarians, journalists. But at those crucial moments when the old order becomes no longer endurable to the masses, they break over the barriers excluding them from the political arena, sweep aside their traditional representatives, and create by their own interference the initial groundwork for a new regime.”

And he continues: “The history of a revolution is for us first of all a history of the forcible entrance of the masses into the realm of rulership over their own destiny.”

Nigeria minimum wage strike Image Solidarity Centre
Nigeria needs a revolution, however, this call must be made in a serious manner and a mass movement built for / Image: Solidarity Centre

All of the conditions for such an event are being prepared in Nigeria today. In its editorial of 13 November 2018, Punch newspaper gave a graphic picture of the situation faced by Nigerian youth:

“In the corridors of power, there is no lack of awareness of the reality; doing the right thing to change the narrative, however, is an insurmountable hurdle. The forum at which Adesola spoke was a job creation policy initiative jointly organised by the ministry and the International Labour Organisation in Abuja; a few days earlier, in Ibadan, Oyo State, Osinbajo had bemoaned the prevailing high rate of teen joblessness and declared that only through job creation for its youths could a nation truly develop. Question is: since this administration took office 41 months ago, what is its record in job creation and productivity?

“Very dismal. Indeed, so poor that youth unemployment rose to 52.65 per cent by Q4 2017, from 49.7 per cent in the preceding quarter, which translates to 22.64 million persons aged between 15 and 35 years’ old who were either jobless or underemployed, according to the National Bureau of Statistics. Its data showed that 7.9 million jobs were lost January 2016 to September 2017; some four out of 10 Nigerians are jobless or underemployed; …The gravity of the problem is revealed in the reality that over 54 percent of Nigeria’s rising population of 197 million are below age 35.”

According to an estimate, 500,000 fresh graduates from our institutions of higher learning join the market yearly, and this unfortunate situation only keeps getting worse. A week hardly passes without news of suicide among the youth. Most unfortunately, the rate of suicide is higher among the Higher Institution students, especially the about-to graduate among them. As they look at the future, rather than feel a sense of relief that passing out of school is supposed to give, the fear and frustration only increase as they approach the end of their academic life.

Social explosion building
The youth, making up the majority of the population, are the spearhead of this process at this particular time. But as all experience shows, the youth are merely the most sensitive indicator of wider social processes. Throughout Nigerian society today, tensions are reaching boiling point, as the masses become increasingly desperate. The Nigerian ruling class is not only incapable of providing even the bare necessities of life for the majority of the population, it is constantly pushing the masses even below their present barbaric living conditions. The ruling class is aware that the present conditions could lead to a social explosion.

Sowore threw the “#RevolutionNow” slogan into the public, the chains of drama that followed should not be a major surprise to anyone. Sowore did not stop at mere sloganeering, he went ahead to declare a day for the commencement of “Nigeria Revolution”, and 5 August was announced as the day.

The response of the Government revealed just how weakened the Buhari regime has become after about four years of continuous privatisation and commercialisation, and the attendant widening of the gap between the rich and poor. This regime’s social base has been significantly eroded. The regime is unstable and can feel the anger of the masses that pervades the land. The regime feared that Sowore’s call would gain an echo, in particular amongst the angry youth around the country.

A genuine revolution does not merely change the faces of those in government, it radically changes the power set up, not just political power but economic power. It uproots the economic system, placing the material resources of the country under the control of those who actually produce the wealth, i.e. the workers and peasants.

Leon Trotsky, who led a genuine social revolution in 1917, posed a fundamental question: what is a revolution? And he answers the question in the following way:

“The most indubitable feature of a revolution is the direct interference of the masses in historical events. In ordinary times the state, be it monarchical or democratic, elevates itself above the nation, and history is made by specialists in that line of business – kings, ministers, bureaucrats, parliamentarians, journalists. But at those crucial moments when the old order becomes no longer endurable to the masses, they break over the barriers excluding them from the political arena, sweep aside their traditional representatives, and create by their own interference the initial groundwork for a new regime.”

Do not force yourself in to a place you are not welcomed.

WHEN A PERSON ISN’T INTERESTED IN YOU EMOTIONALLY.

1) They hardly call, return your calls or message you

So you keep calling and they miss most of the calls and don’t return the ones they miss, always giving you excuses, and you keep calling, I salute your persistent nature but If they don’t call or return your calls, chats, messages on several occasions, clearly they are avoiding you.

Let them be. It’s not you, it’s them. They aren’t interested.

2) They clearly say “I am not interested” to you a lot of times.

They tell you things like “I really like you as a brother/sister”

But… “I’m not interested in you”

Although to guys, some ladies can deliberately do that just to prove hard, know when to draw the line and accept the truth once and for all.

3) They hardly talk about themselves, their plans, or secret.

I’ll kindly advise you to re-write your mission statement if you are the only one doing the talking all the time. They may be indirectly telling you to move on.

When they keep replying you in monologue

You: How are you doing

Him/Her: Fine

You: How was your day

Him/Her: Fine.

Conversation that looks like you’re forcing them to chat or talk to you.

Please, move on.

4) They can’t stand your presence.

When you notice that each time you meet or bump into one another, they tend to dismiss you immediately with a lot of excuses.

“I got to go, we’ll see later” when they just met you

“I was actually on my way to…”

“Please we’ll talk later….. “

They don’t seem to enjoy your company and are alway in a hurry to get out of your presence, because it doesn’t interest them.

5) They don’t bother about your life.

When they don’t ask about your well being or care about what’s happening to you..

She never compliments you like “your top is cute”.

He does not ask how your day went, how your family are doing, your job amidst others.

You tell them about your plans and they forget about it immediately.
Don’t blame them. You’re not just a priority to them..

6) They are not emotionally available

You know that awkward feeling you get when someone doesn’t seem to be interested in connecting to you emotionally.

They are just cold.

Being with them is the real definition of boring and they seem to intentionally make it that way.

You’re the one asking questions and answering them at the same time.

7) They don’t find your jokes funny

When someone loves you, they’ll even laugh at your dry jokes that no one else would laugh at.

Imagine cracking a joke, something you consider to be extremely funny just to lighten up a moment and you’re the only one laughing at it.

Then she/he looks at you like “why is this one laughing? Joke that is not even funny”.

He/She can be mean just to play hard to get, test and offset/upset you or push you away because your feelings mean nothing to them., .

8) They cancel every time

. They keep canceling plans you already agreed to at the last minute, dates and meetings end up with “I’m sorry, I won’t be able to make it”

They make no effort to keep up their appointments with you.

9) They never initiate.

You always suggest and initiate everything

If you don’t call them, they don’t call you.

If you don’t text them, they don’t text you.

If you don’t ask for a date, they don’t.

They can go days without hearing from you or talking to you.

You have to demand for their attention before you ever get it.
You keep initiating everything that happens between the both of you. It’s a sign they are not with you.

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Do not beg to be loved.

Do not force yourself in to a place you are not welcomed.

Go where you are CELEBRATED, not where you are TOLERATED.

Nigeria (/naɪˈdʒɪəriə/ ) officially the Federal Republic of Nigeria, is a country in West Africa, bordering Niger in the north, Chad in the northeast, Cameroon in the east, and Benin in the west. Its coast in the south is located on the Gulf of Guinea in the Atlantic Ocean. The federation comprises 36 states and 1 Federal Capital Territory, where the capital, Abuja, is located. The constitution defines Nigeria as a democratic secular state.

Nigeria is the summary of what hell represents. It is no more endurable. All efforts to prove the contrary, even the heart of Africa project have been supreme failures. Nigeria is the capital of hell on earth. It is a state that is allergic to barest modicum of social justice. A landing in Lagos or any other port of entry into this country, is an entrance into Dante’s city of Woe; the way to a forsaken people; and the gateway to indescribable sorrow. In this country, nothing functions. Injustice is the king here. Corruption reigns with impunity over public life. A 1995 CBS report stated that one cannot go to Nigeria to be scammed, without paying a bribe.

That our nation is caught up in the wind of hell is not in doubt. Our sacred places are filled with men of sacrilegious vocations. These are the carnal and the lusty who betrayed reason in obeisance to appetites. They were those who married avarice; worshipped the golden calf of mediocrity and opportunism; and murdered innocent sleep. They were the evil souls who manipulated men as means to ends in disobedience to Kant. These are those whom Dante designated as lustful and condemned to the second circle of hell, where torment commences. They through their actions and the lack thereof, swallowed pestles of inglorious provenance. And they were eternally condemned to sleep standing upright as Ola Rotimi will have it. They raped decency and good sense, and the gods reprimanded them with perpetual priapism. Our misfortune lies in the fact that they sport these hard-ons across our land, still raping and plundering our posterity. It lies in the fact that they remain the pallbearers and undertakers of our commonweal. What they cannot despoil, they co-opt and corrupt. And what they cannot corrupt, they destroy. Destruction is their praise and their song. They are carrions and beasts of no nation at the same time. But eternal discomfiture awaits their debauched consciences. It is the law of life. When Macbeth, pursuant to his ambitions, presided over the murder of innocent sleep, he married insomnia as his recompense. That is the just reward of every such crassness.

Religion in Nigeria is the temple of hypocrisy. The facts are that our pastors are fake healers; converting their lecherous selves into multi-millionaires feeding on the ignorance, low self esteem and misfortunes of the people. They get revelations from their neurosis to heal fake diseases, well choreographed. Many of them are Jim Jones waiting to happen. Many of these pastors hold tyrannical and fearful hold over their ignorant adherents whom they have convinced that they are divine. They use an admixture of manipulation, intimidation, terror and trial by ordeal to keep a vice-like grip on their adherents. It is a kingdom of the cults.

Hell is the supreme recompense for injustice. It is the condemnation to endless discomfiture. It is the state of being trapped in an all round decadence. According to Dante Alighieri, the greatest Italian poet of all times, and one of the triumvirate of universal masters, hell is the way into the city of woe; the way to a forsaken people; the way into eternal sorrow. It is the recompense of justice for a fossilized lifetime of wrong choices. It is the payment of heaven for a hell of a life, both individual and collective. It is the residence of eternal hopelessness.

Nigeria a hell on earth, Nigeria a hell where money meant for citizens is been circulated with in the cabals. A private citizen move around with Bullion Vans,  Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu on the eve of 2019 presidential elections. The same man who is desperate to attain the position of presidency come 2023, he’s so corrupt to the act of giving delegates thousands of dollars just to win the party primary election.

Ahmed Tinubu is a man who turn Lagos state to a state controlled by tout, a man who have no sympathy for the citizens, rather than to gather thugs, breed them and appoint them into government sector.

Nigeria a Hell on Earth where Killing for blasphemy as been the order of the day, just of recent, a young lady called Deborah was cut short her dream because of Alleged blasphemous Whatsapp post. She was stoned and burnt to death.

The stoning and burning to death of Ms Deborah Emmanuel is such a painful and heartbreaking story that happened before our eyes. I am talking about this again and again because this is not the first time this is happening, and if we don’t do anything about it, this won’t be the last.

Nigeria a hell on earth where terrorists now use helicopter to ambush citizens. Days ago, not less than 32 persons was killed in a fresh attack by militant who used helicopter as transportation means. Nigeria a hell on earth where there is no security despite special fee set aside for security personnel to buy weapons but was stolen by the bosses in the military sector.

Nigeria is hell. It is a distorted version of every decent thing one expects in a country. This country is a mockery of nationhood. It stands opposite in purpose to what all civilized men aspire to. It is deadly jungle where Hobbessian fear of violent death reigns supreme. Here depravity has no degree. Everything that is good is meaningless in Nigeria. Even communication, which in other climes is a bridge to national unity, happens to be a dialogue of the deaf here. We prefabricate and carry around prejudices about our compatriots without rhyme. These pejorative prejudices lack reason and affronts logic. Yet we carry them; talk at one another instead of talking with one another. Communication in Nigeria at all levels is an essential arena for trading in rubbish. It is a theatre of gibberish. Our government lies with audacious impunity, even when the truth stands so crystal clear.

Most of those who could have changed Nigeria for the better are outside the country because Nigeria is not fair to them; their kinds still in Nigeria are infinitesimal (in number) to make any impact. That’s why the generation of 1950-1959 are still holding sway in the country, messing everything up and jeopardizing the political, economic, social and cultural growth of the country. “We have several Nigeria technocrats scattered all over the world and developing developed countries. For example, in Malaysia, 18 Nigerians are working in their oil sector as we also had hundreds in different capacities across the globe. In fact, in Nigeria today, young Nigerians can do so many things with computers. That simply means Nigerians are more developed than the country itself and we can work on this to achieve the desired developmental goals we’ve been craving for. The government should just work on some individuals to really contribute to the development of the country”.

NIGERIA A HELL ON EARTH.

Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown

Ending of a relationship is hard and painful, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may want to rekindle things but sometimes it is just not meant to be. You can put the pieces back together but you can’t fix the cracks. Hence, sometimes it better to completely move on from the relationship.

Relationships end, everyone knows that. The tough part is actually dealing with suffering, accepting, letting go, moving on, and processing a whole lot of other feelings at the same time.

My ex-girlfriend decided to end our relationship because she couldn’t forgive me for a mistake I’d made.(I think)

During the first 24hrs of our breakup I decided that it would be best if I just gave her some time to think things out. I accepted the consequences of my error and decided not to pressure her.

I asked for forgiveness. I asked for a second chance. She told me she couldn’t trust me anymore and couldn’t risk getting hurt again. I accepted her decision and started moving on with my life.

She had made the decision to move on. Now I had to do the same.

I was devastated. I loved her so much. I was still waiting for her because I had hope. I was still waiting for that second chance. I was left with a big hole in my heart and a turbulent, uncontrollable mind.

If you’ve also had to accept that someone you once loved doesn’t want to be with you anymore, you probably. understand the rush of feelings and thoughts that come to you every day, every hour, every minute.

It feels like even though you try to move on, to stop remembering, to stop speculating and thinking about this person, you make no progress.

Even though I never felt guilty about the end of the relationship (I am certain I did everything I could to save it and I was not going to torture myself).

Talking about it to my friends only helped momentarily. Hours later I always found myself thinking all those things I shouldn’t be thinking again.

If you are currently dealing with a traumatic break up or you still have the memory of the loved one so close to your heart you think you might never forget them, these tips may help:

1. Stop any contact with that person.

Stop calling, and stop sending texts or emails. Respect his/her decision. It won’t be easy, but every time you want to text or call them, remind yourself, “This will only hurt me and make it harder to let go and move forward with my life.”

2. Stop looking for reasons why it ended and have what you could have done better.

It’s tempting to rehash what happened and blame yourself for your shortcomings, but you can’t change the past, so why torture yourself reliving it? The only thing that matters is the fact that the relationship came to its end and it’s time to move on.

3. Stop thinking about what that other person thinks, does, wishes, plans, and feels.

The only person that matters now is you. It matters what you think, do, wish, plan and feel.

4. Practice acceptance.

Commit each morning to fully accepting what is happening in the now. Believe there is a reason why this is all happening and trust that it’s for the best. That this breakup will somehow support your growth or lead to something good, even if you can’t see it now

5. Do not hate or wish anything negative to that person.

You won’t hurt them by thinking negative thoughts about them. You’ll only hurt yourself by staying stuck in this kind of anger and bitterness.

6. Allow yourself to feel and to grieve.

This was the most important one for me. Don’t feel guilty for being sad or wishing things were different. Allow yourself to feel the pain of losing the person you love.

Don’t hide your emotions, and don’t be embarrassed because you’re hurting. It only makes it worse to respond to a difficult feeling (i.e. sadness) with another difficult feeling (i.e. guilt). Just let yourself feel whatever you feel, with no time limit imposed.

7. Enjoy the sensation of knowing you did everything you could.

Maybe you fought for that person or asked for forgiveness. Be confident that in the future you will never regret making the wrong decision and will never think about “what could have happened,” because you know you made an effort.

8. Practice gratitude.

Make a list of everything good going on in your life that you’re grateful for. Include attributes that make you a special and desirable person. Keep adding elements to this list, including all the things we take for granted, such as our health, our education, our families, our friends, and our skills. Refer to this list whenever you think you lost the best thing in your life. You didn’t. There’s a lot still left to appreciate, and a lot more coming down the road.

9. Embrace positive thinking.

Start each day thinking about something that inspires or uplifts you. Think about people you admire, dreams yet to be fulfilled, things you’re looking forward to in your day. Fill your mind with positive thoughts to counteract the negative ones.

10. Read.

Read self-help books or articles related with this topic. (Don’t be embarrassed—no one needs to know!) Stop watching romantic movies and listening to love songs. Instead, read, read, read! Books can transform your life.

Depression is a common illness worldwide, with more than 264 million people affected(1). Depression is different from usual mood fluctuations and short-lived emotional responses to challenges in everyday life. Especially when long-lasting and with moderate or severe intensity, depression may become a serious health condition. It can cause the affected person to suffer greatly and function poorly at work, at school and in the family. At its worst, depression can lead to suicide. Close to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year. Suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15-29-year-olds.

If you feel depressed, it’s best to do something about it — depression doesn’t just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better

1.Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. But make yourself do it anyway (ask a friend to exercise with you if you need to be motivated). Once you get in the exercise habit, it won’t take long to notice a difference in your mood.

2.Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat. If depression has affected your eating, you’ll need to be extra mindful of getting the right nourishment. Proper nutrition can influence a person’s mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don’t feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going).

3.Identify troubles, but don’t dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what’s got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding.

Once you air out these thoughts and feelings, turn your attention to something positive. Take action to solve problems. Ask for help if you need it. Feeling connected to friends and family can help relieve depression. It may also help them feel there’s something they can do instead of just watching you hurt.

4.Express yourself. With depression, a person’s creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood.

5.Try to notice good things. Depression affects a person’s thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don’t forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal.

The meaning of “ILOGBO” is a town that “FLOURISH” formerly known as “ULUGBOORO”.

Ilogbo-Ekiti is one of the towns in Ido-Osi Local Government Area of Ekiti State. Founded by some of the grand children of Oduduwa, led by Okunbobua, who jointly migrated from Ile-Ife, around 14th century.

City Name: Ilogbo

Continent: Africa (AF)

Country: Nigeria (NG)

State: Ekiti (54)

Timezone: Africa/Lagos

Latitude: 7.86004

Longitude: 5.15556

Elevation (GTOPO30): 57

Although Ilogbo is a sleepy town in Ido-Osi Local Government Area of Ekiti State, it has many feats, which added many feathers to her cap as an outstanding town.

Founded by some of the grand children of Oduduwa, led by Okunbobuwa, who jointly migrated from Ile-ife, around 14th century, Ilogbo began as a local military camp and had its establishment coinciding with the institution of Islamic Hausa Kingdom in Northern Nigeria.

The Owa of Ilogbo, Oba Edward Ajayi, said llogbo was formerly called Ulogbooro, meaning a town flourishing with wealth, and this attests to the town’s current wealth in human and material resources:

“As descendants of Oduduwa, Ilogbo people could trace their root to Ile-Ife. The town began as a military camp in the early 14th century. Its establishment coincided with the institution of Islamic Hausa kingdom in the northern part of Nigeria.

“The town, which was initially known as Ilugbooro came to existence when modern Nigeria was full of individually distinct ethnic kingdoms. Okunbobuwa, popularly known as Ejemu was the direct son of Owa Obokun of Ijesa who was also the son of Oduduwa.

“According to history, Okunbobuwa was the first person to migrate to Ilogbo. He was a prince and a son of Owa of Ijesa. When his father died, Okunbobuwa (Ejemu) and his two brothers argued on who would be crowned as a king. In the name of peace, Ejemu left Ilesa with few friends and Okere.

“After a few days in the forest, the group settled at Ipole Oke-Ona and the place became their first settlement. At Ipole, Ejemu was there for many years before he could meet Olotin, a great hunter who later helped Ejemu to persuade Omo Oye, a prince from Osun to settle down at Ipole. Omo Oye was made the king and the dynasty remains the ruling house in Ilogbo since then.

“Olotin also won another soul of passer-by (Odofin) to settle down with them. Ejemu agreed to make him second-in-command while he took third position. Enurin, who migrated from Ikole took the number fourth position.

In the administration of Ilogbo-Ekiti, Owa is the head. The town has three permanent house chiefs namely: Odofin, Ejemu and Enurin. Odofin is the head of Odofin’s dynasty, Ejemu is the head of Ebi Mije and Enurin is the head of Enurin’s descendants.

The additional three are rotational high chiefs: Eisinkin, Eisaya and Eisaba. The three additional chiefs increased number of high chiefs to six and these chiefs were known as Iwara Mefa (the kingmakers). Ilogbo-Ekiti is one of the 11 towns in Ido/Osi Local Government. The meaning of Ilogbo is a town that flourish formerly known as Ulugbooro.”

Ilogbo has other feats, which placed the small town on the world map. Chairman, Committee for Homecoming event, Dr Jola Awosusi, said of the many sons and daughters who have made Ilogbo proud nationally and globally are Thaddeus Aina, Prof Tayo Olutoye, said to be Nigeria’s first Professor of Yoruba language and her son, a United States of America (U.S.A) based Nigerian surgeon, Dr Oluyinka Olutoye, who achieved a great medical feat by removing an unborn child from the mother’s womb. He returned the child to the womb of the woman who delivered after 32 weeks.

Ilogbo also boasts of rich cultural practices and heritage. The Oba said: “It is an abomination for the indigenes to engage in money ritual. The consequence is that anybody who does this will die without tasting the wealth.

“Our other taboos include the fact that you can’t kill a cat, you don’t carry the complete of plantain of banana or palm kernel around the town and you cannot ride horse across the main town. The natural resources in the town are grand stone and partial gold.

“The most popular traditional festival in Ilogbo is Olua and it attracts tourists and traditionalists from Cuba, United Kingdom and America. The Ooni of Ife, Adeyeye Ogunwusi Eniitan is always coming to the town during Olua festival. He was here recently.

“Tourist attractions in Ilogbo-Ekiti include Alaorosaba cave at Ipole, Erandu, a similitude of Olosunta Ikere and Kitikiti. Also, we have Ope Oloriyeye, a spiritual palm tree with many front heads. We have streams with certain spiritual powers. They include Ogidigbi Oniranyin, a healing stream and her gentle compatriot, Isune. We are blessed in agriculture. We produce mostly yam, cassava, maize and some other things.”

Oba Ajayi explained why the town honoured her indigenes: “I congratulate them all for what is happening today. It is a great lesson for everyone of them so that when the opportunity arises they should use it very well to serve their town so that they will be well-known. They should do good in their own time so that they will be remembered for it. We also want to urge the state government to help tar Usi-Ilogbo Road and provide jobs for the unemployed youths.”

Aina, a former member of the Federal House of Representatives and former Chairman of Ido-Osi LGA, said: “I thank God I was able to construct some developmental projects in this town and in my constituencies. I feel delighted and elated. I am happy and grateful to God that I lived to see this.”

It has its roots in Old-Egypt, while many others believe it is from the Yoruba tribe in the Southern part of Nigeria.

The waist beads are African customs mainly worn as an ornament to beautify the wearer’s looks.

This is a traditional adornment called several names like Ileke-Idi, Jigidi by the Hausa.

What is Waist Beads?

A waist bead is a traditional female beauty enhancer worn to distinctively bring out feminism and beauty.

It draws main attention to the hips, bum and thighs as well as the way it sways when a woman walks. A woman’s chastity and sexual character can easily be interpreted by the use of waist beads.

Waist beads can also be described as an embellish beautiful array of blended colours which often glistens against its rays of light when the beads escape from the hiding under the clothes.

Some men are interested in the sexual attractiveness and sensuality of waist beads and encourage their wives/partners to wear them so as to accentuate their beautiful look. Today, some men make further move to the extent of presenting waist beads as a gift to their wives/partners to pass a strong message of their interest in this traditional adornment.

Benefits Of Waist Beads

Females who adorn beads today use them more for ornamental and beautification purposes or simply to measure their weights, so the reasons depend on the wearer.

Although some people are unaware of the benefits of waist beads, the attraction of a beaded woman is practically undeniable.

Decoration
Representation of love
Weight control
Contraception
Spiritual protection
Chastity/Sensuality
Rides of Passage
Royalty

Decoration:

These waist beads are often colourful, shiny and fascinating just like other modern accessories like a necklace, watch or earring. This ornament is very feminine and Yoruba women are urged to wear them as they grow older.

Representation of Love:

Some suitors give their women waist beads as a symbol to profess their love, and also husband can gift his wife. Many parents can present waist beads to their female children to prove the love and affection they have for them.

Weight Control:

Some women employ the use of their waist beads as a means of measuring and controlling their weight. They get to known when the waist beads become tighter, the woman will decode she’s adding weight and needs to do act against gaining more weight if the needs arise.

Contraception

It is used as an instrument or procedure to prevent conceptions as a result of having sexual intercourse. It acts as fertility beads which are also used to determine ovulation in order to abstain from making love with her husband.

Spiritual Protection:

Some Yoruba women believe that when they adorn the waist beads they protect them from any sexual diseases.

Women also adorn them as protector for their pregnancies against spiritual and magical spells.

Proclamation of Chastity/Sensuality

The waist beads are used to ascertain if a woman is morally pure or not.

Rites of Passage

It is believed that younger women who start the wearing of waist beads from an early age will achieve more rounded hips, slim waists and firmer breasts.

The waist beads also served as a rite of passage. The more a girl grows, she changes her old waist beads for more fashionable ones that are more fitting for her growing body.

Royalty:

Some waist beads represent royalty because of cost, and scarcity. This is mostly found among the Yoruba princesses and other women of royalty who adorn these beads to stand out from the crowd.

Importance Of Waist Beads In Love Making

Importance of waist beads in love making
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Although there is rather a focal fascination with waist beads that existed mostly for some younger women who desired to reach the stage where they could embellish some hidden view underneath their modest. Women clothes that were covered in the ages, the beads sneaked out at irregular intervals, surprising and enticing the onlookers.

Sexual Attraction:

Some women adorn waist beads because they know they attract the opposite sex. The waist beads bring out the body figure and allure attention to the movement of the waist.

The ancient tradition believed that seeing a woman’s waist beads equates seeing her nudity. Many brides increased the numbers of their waist beads in other to seduce their husbands.

Fertility:

Waist beads also serve as potency enhancer, according to some traditions. They believe the beads help a woman to conceive easily because of what it entails.

It Boosts Sexual Libido:

The waist beads are believed to hold great sensual appeal possessing the ability and power to stimulate sexual desire and deep emotions from the opposite sex.

The importance of Ileke Idi in lovemaking plays a great role because it often fuels the ability of the opposite sex to do more during sex.

It prolongs sex foreplay

They can be used to improve and prolong romance during lovemaking. During foreplay, you will have to run your fingers on it.

Since waist beads are adorned against the skin, they serve as another way of teasing your partner. Also, the moving of the beads against the skin among the partners during sexual intercourse increases excitement and sensation.

Extend patronage

They prolong patronage of opposite sex to women because of sensation.

In conclusion, there are different types of names of waist beads determined by different tribes among which are Ibebe-Idi or Ileke-Idi by the Yoruba, Jigida by the Hausa and Mgbaji by the Igbo, while some other tribes name the beads as Giri-Giri, Yomba, Jel-Jelli; Bin-Bin, and Djay-Djay.

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